How to remain objective & aware when attracting women to prevent your weaknesses from causing subtle mistakes that lead to rejection. It’s a natural feeling to want to express your emotions at inappropriate times when you consider the fact that the feminist movement, TV and movies have been beating it into our head for decades that men should be super sappy apologetic pleasers to make a woman like them. Something that’s very important to understand about attraction, and which is especially true when you are trying to re-attract a woman you previously got rejected by, is that women are emotional beings who are primarily driven by what they feel about a man. Therefore, if you start writing sappy love letters or letters of apology for past transgressions because you feel it will make her want you more when you are trying to re-attract her, all you will really do is remind her of and cause her to feel negative feelings she once felt because of you in the past. The idea is to always cause her to feel good feelings and vibrations about you when she thinks about you. If you remind her of your past transgressions or times that you hurt her or acted weak, it will simply cause her interest level to drop. The following is an e-mail from a reader who seems to have done a pretty good job of walking away after he got dumped. His ex-girlfriend is now calling him, but he’s still making some stupid mistakes because of weakness and irrational fears. Some of the mistakes he’s making are obvious and some are subtle that are unnecessarily extending the time it should take for him to get her back. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
Once again, spot on with the advice and perhaps I was getting a little weak, (You’re bullshitting yourself. You were acting weak. You MUST be brutally honest with YOURSELF so you can remain objective if you are to make the right decisions to get what you want with women.) but not with you around hey. I’m glad I didn’t do anything before getting your advice. I may of had a temporary moment of weakness, (Acting weak turns women off and makes them not want to be around you. Especially women who already rejected you for acting weak. You’re on thin ice already. It doesn’t take much for them to get turned off and bolt once you fail a few simple tests.) but I didn’t succumb to it. My patience (You must learn to practice INFINITE PATIENCE with women. PRACTICE makes PERRRRRFECT. Learn to make the kitty kats purrrrr by practicing your pussy cat pickup skills.) is definitely working for me, since I’ve contacted you she has asked me to meet with her in Lanzarote, while she is there on work experience. I told her maybe, if I’m not busy, but between you and me I’m not gonna spend that sort of money to see her. (Good, don’t until she’s earned it thru her actions. Invite her to come see you if she asks you to do something. She dumped you, remember? Be a man and stand up for what you want. Don’t be weak and cave.)
I did however send her an apology letter (That’s so fucking weak dude! You’re trying to attract her, not remind her of what a dick you’ve been in the past! Women are emotional beings! Congratulations, you just made her feel all of the bad feelings she used to feel for you. That drives interest level down, not up! If you need to apologize to her for something you did, you do it in person when/if she brings it up as you are opening her up emotionally like I describe in extensive detail in my book.) because the things I had said and done to her over the past 9 months were truly dreadful. The fact that she persists in contacting me is amazing. (No it’s not. She simply appears to still have interest level in the 50% range. Otherwise you would have never heard from her again if it was lower. You’re too hung up on this chick. Get busy with other women. Success with other women will give you swagger and build your confidence. Learn to master the three methods of seduction by practicing.) any other person would not of wanted anything to do with me. (You’re putting her on a pedestal and treating her like a celebrity.) I didn’t want anything by apologizing to her. (You’re bullshitting yourself again. You were trying to force things and make something happen. It’s called the illusion of action.) I wasn’t chasing, (Yes you were. Chasing women guarantees rejection because you’re basically acting like a woman. It makes women pull away and bluff to test your strength.) it was purely from the heart. (Speak from the heart IN PERSON.) She is always initiating contact now. She bluffed to test me a few times. One of them was where she contacted me. I asked how she was doing, and she ignored me. I thought whatever, (You are becoming wiser and developing your sensory acuity padawan. Good job.) and today she mentioned how she had been up north with some other dude. (ALWAYS have a better comeback like James Bond always does with the ladies. Here’s a good one you could have used: “I don’t care, he can keep you busy when you’re with me.”) which I know kept blowing up her facebook. I didn’t react at all, but those are issues I’m working on. However, after reading your book a few more times I should be good to go, we have no competition hey. (You’ll be having breakthrough’s like this soon enough. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
Thanks very much for your advice, it is truly appreciated
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