How to successfully make dates & hook up when women you blew it with previously start contacting you again. When you have displayed weakness which results in your getting rejected, dumped or put into friends zone, you must be aware that when women start contacting you again after you have walked away, they will test you excessively to probe for your weaknesses. Even if they start calling you and you try to make a date with them, they may be difficult or turn you down at first. When they won’t make a definite date with you, the only thing you can do is withdraw the offer saying, “let’s just do it some other time when your schedule is a little more open.” It can be frustrating because you are excited she called, but disappointing when she won’t make a date with you. The key is not to get upset and to instead remain objective and indifferent knowing she will probably call again. When you walk away stating you’re not interested in friendship, women are going to test you when they do start calling you again to see if they can get you to go along with what you state you won’t go along with. It’s important to not have a moment of weakness where you agree to going along with being friends when you previously told her you were not interested in friendship only. Some guys make the mistake of doing this because they rationalize that “hey, she’s calling me and it’s just a matter of time before she’s mine again.” Women are sexually attracted to men who say what they mean, and who mean what they say. The following is an e-mail from a reader whose cheating former girlfriend has been calling him again. He tried to arrange a date, but she gave him a flaky response. He got upset with her and writes me saying that he is no longer happy that she calls him. He wants my take on what I think his next move should be to keep her as a sex playmate only. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
Thanks for your reply to my first message. I just want to keep you updated. The last time she called with a private number I forgot to mention last time; I asked her to meet up. She said she would call me later to let me know, but that she was going away with her friend for the whole weekend. So I kind of got upset. (Bad idea. You became unglued when she did not do what you wanted. This communicates weakness and that you don’t feel like you deserve her. Nothing a woman does should ever diminish you in any way. You need to exercise emotional self control. If you don’t it will ruin her level of comfort and safety with you which will cause her to back away from you.) I told her that next time to only call me if she really wants to meet up or do something. She just kept silent and said, “I don’t know what to say.” Then she said that she was going to call me later. After that I e-mailed her saying, “let’s do it some other time baby when your schedule is more open.”
Two weeks passed and then I received a private call. Deep down I knew it was her, but I didn’t answer. I answered after the fourth ring, but this time she said, “I hear you are taking bad about me to your friend?” I said I didn’t have any idea what she’s taking about. Then I said, “I’m kind of busy, would you like to talk about it another day?” She says, “no, I don’t really care” and hung up. It was a strange call I thought. (It sounds like she was looking for a reason to call you and totally made it up. She thinks you don’t like her and calls to see if you still have some interest. She’s uncertain of where she stands with you because you have started acting like a man who is a catch. Women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.) Then I got some other private calls at night time, but I didn’t answer. The next day she called again, but this time I answered after like 4 calls. Well, it was her this time asking me for a pair sunglasses that she wanted back that she left at my place like 5 months ago. (Women purposefully leave things at your place so they have a reason to come back over or call you.) All of this sounded really silly. I used to feel happy when she called, but now I don’t have that feeling anymore. As you said, she is only sex playmate material. (She cheated on you. She’s not a loyal woman. Not good relationship material. Just a great girl to have a fun open relationship with.) I just see her like that and more now that I feel more confident showing my six-pack lol. I’m having a lot of fun and a few chicks approached me. I’m still reading your book and it is helping me a lot. (You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Thanks Corey! I just wonder what you would do in this scenario? (Do nothing. When she calls, make definite plans, or withdraw the offer and get off of the phone.) I appreciate your help.
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