What to do when your girl stops calling & initiating contact so she starts calling & wanting to hook up again. The important thing to understand is that when a woman rejects you and tells you she doesn’t want to be exclusive with you anymore, it’s because her interest is really low in you. The absolute worst thing you can do when you’ve been rejected is to continually call hoping that you can change her mind. Some guys think, “if I could just see her, I know she would change her mind.” Guys who think this way are simply deluding themselves. Since men have logical minds, they reason that by being around the woman who has rejected them will cause her to start wanting them again. The reason they have pushed them away is because they do not feel safe and comfortable anymore. Usually it’s because they feel suffocated. The following is an e-mail from a reader whose girlfriend dumped him a month ago. However, she said they could still be sex friends. However, when he talks to her he says it doesn’t feel like she actually wants to see him anymore. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hey Coach,

I’m in a bit of an odd predicament. My girlfriend broke up with me a month ago, but when she did she left sex on the table. Meaning we could be sex friends. Long story short, by being a weak bitch about the break up, we decided not to talk for a while. (Translation: “She decided she did not want to talk to me for a while.”) I called her a week later and 3 times after over the next few days to talk. (Why? This does nothing to make her want you again. Women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. When you call her and chase her after she dumps you, it gives her confirmation that she made the right decision. When you walk away and never look back, it makes her doubt her decision and she will call you eventually if she still has interest. The phone/skype/texting/email/etc. is for setting appointments, not chit chatting.) It just feels weird going from talking all the time and being so close, to nothing. (You need to let it go. Stop acting like a needy woman. Act like a man!) I didn’t talk to her for a week. When I got on skype she called me, but I was planning to talk to another girl so I ended the call with her after 30 seconds.

Since then she has been super curious about who I’ve been talking to. (That’s a good thing.) To the point of acting really sad and saying that she feels something is wrong with me. She feels that I’m hiding something from her and that I used to be open because we used to talk about everything, share everything and that she feels most comfortable with me. I held my ground and didn’t say anything. The weird thing is, it doesn’t feel like she wants to get back together with me. (Why would she? She dumped you, but you continue to chase her and blow her phone up. That will only drive her away further and cause her to perceive you as a weak and unworthy man. Therefore… no pussy for you!) It’s been hard to read. I know that if we hung out that it would be fun and we would definitely have sex. (That’s the lie guys tell themselves to justify continually chasing a woman in hopes she will eventually say yes after rejection.) But I also know that she is most likely going to date other dudes. She is really attractive and has an ass like heaven. She doesn’t try to contact me and sometimes it feels like she isn’t even interested when we talk, but she still wants to be close. (That is because you are still initiating contact with her. She knows she can have you anytime she wants, therefore, she does not want you at all.) I’m going to keep dating other women, but I’m not sure if I should walk away from her and never look back, or keep a pretty good friendship where we do have sex and can see each other. (Stop contacting her completely! Wait to hear from her. When she does contact you say, “So I suppose you want to get together?” if she does not bring it up by the 3rd or 4th text. If she says yes, then make definite plans for her to come see you at your place. If she says no, then tell her to hit you up when she wants to see you and leave the conversation. This will make her wonder if you’ve been snatched up by another goddess. She’ll either stop calling you, or come to see you. You should also read my book ASAP. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) I can’t see her all the time since she lives in New Jersey, and I live in New York.

Thanks

Allan

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Corey Wayne
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“Impatience never commanded success.” ~ Edwin H. Chapin

Here’s why ex girlfriends start calling weeks after they broke up with you & how to respond so you get what you want. I get a lot of e-mail from guys who have been dumped or blown off by women they were dating. Universally I would say that most of them simply want to know how to get the ex back or rekindle things once they’ve gone cold. A lot of the situations involve a woman who is a cheater. When a guy gets dumped, he’s often not thinking very clearly or objectively. The bottom line is that when a woman changes the terms of your relationship that are not to your liking, the only thing you can do is say, “no thanks” and walk away and never look back. Nine times out of 10, a few weeks or even sometimes a few months later after you’ve completely walked away, you’ll get a call from her. The key to rekindling things when she calls is to be prepared on how to properly respond to the phone calls so she does what you want. The following is an e-mail from a reader who got dumped by his girlfriend a month ago. On top of that, she cheated on him. She’s recently started calling him, but he’s having a hard time getting her to commit to meeting up with him. In my comments which are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail, I detail the perfect texting techniques to get her to start coming over to his place and sleeping with him again with no strings attached:

Hi,

I found out that my ex was cheating on me so we broke up. After a month she called me with the excuse that she saw a picture of me with someone else. She was saying that I deserved better and that I should look for someone else after a 15 minute conversation. (Translation: “Don’t get serious with someone else because I may want you back as long as you stop acting like a little weak bitch.”) We decided to meet up the next day. I wasn’t sure about that, but because I still had feelings for her I accepted. She told me that she was sorry for everything I went through, and that she didn’t know why she did that. (Bullshit! She did it because she had low romantic interest in you and she has no integrity. Girls with no integrity or loyalty will cheat on you when their interest level drops.) Since then she calls me once or twice a week to see how I’m doing. When I try to set a date with her, she just can’t make it. I have tried twice to meet her, but with no luck. I send her messages, but I get no reply. (Chasing women guarantees rejection. She cheated on you and dumped you. When you start chasing her you communicate that you are ok with the fact she is a liar and a cheater. This communicates to her that you are ok with how she treats you. She knows she can have you back and therefore she does not want you because you are not being a challenge. You don’t reward bad behavior.) I don’t call her at all. (You just said she does not respond to your messages and now you say you don’t call her, which is it? I think you are embellishing things to make yourself look better. I think what really is going on is once she started calling you, you started trying to force things by calling her. Therefore, she acts flakey.) She is the one calling. If she has no interest in me then what the hell is she calling for? (She may want to rekindle things, however, you are over-reacting to her calls and trying to make things happen faster than she is willing to go. Stop calling her and don’t initiate any contact. When she does call, respond a few hours later with texting ONLY!!! If it’s after 7 pm, then respond to her calls/messages/texts/etc. the next day. If she does not bring up getting together after 3 or 4 texts back and forth, then text this: “So I suppose you want to get together?” and wait for her to respond. If she says anything other than “yes,” then text, “It was nice chatting with you, but I got to run. Keep in touch.” and then leave the conversation. If she says “yes,” then text this: “What nights are you free over the next week?” and let her respond. Then, when she texts back the days she is available, pick one that you are also available and text this assuming for example she and you are free on a Wednesday: “Drinks? My place. Wednesday @ 7 pm?” and wait for her to respond. Then text: “See you then, I gotta run!” and leave the conversation. Keep it to texting, no calls. You’re busy. She’ll either agree to come over to your place, or she won’t. ALWAYS GIVE HER THE SAME RESPONSE. The phone/texting/messaging is only to set definite appointments. If she says she’ll have to get back to you, then always text this response to that BS controlling answer of hers: “Let’s just do it some other time when your schedule is more open.” When she comes over, after about five minutes of chatting say, “I think you need to come over here and kiss me.” Then close the deal in the bedroom.)

I’m trying to get over her by going out and meeting girls. (Awesome! Continue to do that so you can meet plenty of new ladies to practice your skills on and master all three methods of seduction.) I made out with a couple, but I’m still feeling empty and thinking about her a lot. (Keep hooking up with other women and stop worrying about your ex. She’s not good girlfriend, exclusive relationship or marriage material. Only friends with benefits or sex playmate material.) I’m going to the gym, taking some dancing classes, reading books, but then after a week when she calls, I go back to zero. (That’s why you need plenty of other women in your life.) I just feel like all of this time was wasted because when she calls, I just want to see her. (You need to hang back and outwait her while keeping yourself occupied with finding a high quality lady to have in your life which your ex is not. Repetition is the mother of skill.) I just started reading your book, but I need a straight answer. I really don’t know what to think of what she is trying to do. I’m a bit lost. Please, I need some help. (You just need to stop calling and initiating contact with her completely. If you clean your approach up with the texting approach I detailed above, you’ll get the power back and she’ll probably start coming over to your place and sleeping with you again. Don’t take her out on dates. Have her come over for drinks, cook dinner together and hook up only. Save your money for high integrity women who deserve it. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Thanks Corey.

Bob

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Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“Vitality shows not only in our ability to persist but our ability to start over.” ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald

How becoming more successful with women spills over into other areas of your life so your life becomes effortless. As I discussed in my book, the more successful you become with women, the more successful you will become in all areas of your life. Men who display the leadership characteristics of dominant alpha males always seem to be in the right place at the right time when great opportunities are abundant. It’s like a snowball effect. In beginning the snowball is really small as it starts to roll down the hill, but by the time it gets to the bottom of the hill it’s a giant almost immovable force. As you start practicing what I teach, your little successes eventually grow into big wins for you. It’s a process and you must do the work in order to succeed. However, since repetition is the mother of skill, even your fuck-ups will help you become better. As you slowly lose your fear of doing and saying the kinds of things that deep down you’ve always wanted to do and say… women, circumstances, opportunities and other people will show up to conspire with you to help you make the life and lifestyle of your dreams a reality. The following is an e-mail from a phone coaching client of mine. I’ve been coaching him for about a year and a half now. He is a retired combat wounded Army veteran from the Iraq war. He was originally determined to go into law enforcement once he graduated from college. However, he really struggled to get hired as a police officer. It seemed like every door was getting slammed in his face. His guidance counselor suggested he change his major from criminology to business and that maybe life was trying to tell him something and that maybe, law enforcement was not the ultimate career that the universe has planned for him. When I first started working with him he couldn’t get a date to save his life. He felt he had lost his mojo. A year and a half later with my coaching and his relentless application of what I teach, he’s getting laid all the time, and employers are making special exceptions in their job offers just to make sure that he will come work for them. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Coach Corey,

Anyways, Dude, Corey, I got a call this week from my school asking me if I want to meet and have a ‘sit down talk” with the Secretary of the VA. He’s making a stop in my town next week and only 10 student veterans were selected to meet him. I was one of them. So of course I jumped on it and said I would be honored to meet him. So I’ve been drafting up questions and concerns I have for him. So I thought that it was pretty cool that I got selected for that when there are so many student veterans. (When you act like an alpha male and start succeeding with women, you demonstrate the body language and physiology of a leader of people simply by your presence. Opportunities and success will effortlessly flow your way and other leaders will find out about you and want to meet with you. This is the way it’s supposed to be! Get used to people seeking out your advice and input.)

On the Job front, well it looks like I’m going to get that job that I mentioned to you. It was fucking cool Corey. Remember how I had told them my conditions for the job? Well lo & behold they gave it to me with Great Pay! (They made you an offer to take the position and you responded with terms other than what they were seeking. Since you carry yourself like a leader and an alpha male, they modified the position criteria to accommodate your needs & availability. Just like the Denver Broncos NFL Football team rolled out the red carpet for Peyton Manning! It pays to be an alpha male winner!) I was thinking at first, they were going to tell me to “fuck off,” but no dude, they gave me the job with $17/hr pay. That’s pretty fucking good here in my city. Especially just for a summer gig. I was a bit amazed. To tell you the truth Corey, I just wanted the summer off from school. I was about to light my fucking books on fire this past semester LOL. So I’m pretty stoked about this job. I’m going to be driving an RV looking thing with computers and shit like that in it. I’ll be taking it to Job Fairs throughout the state. Helping people find jobs, set up resumes and things of that nature. So I’m looking forward to it. (Awesome! Good job!)

Dude Corey, it looks like things are finally starting to look good for me in multiple aspects of my life. (Success with women makes you feel more complete and confident as a man. Most men do not feel this way inside. Those that do get treated like royalty and opportunities just seem to effortlessly flow their way.) I have yet to have the feeling of complete fulfillment, but I know it’s all within due time. (The more your life evolves and changes as time goes by and you are able to spend more and more of your time doing things you want to do when you want to do it, the more content, confident, peaceful and balanced you will feel. It’s a process to make your life ideally the way you want it. Rome wasn’t built in a day.) In regards to women, I’ve developed a great sensory acuity knowing if I actually have a chance, and if I don’t. I’ve learned to not get attached to results as well. It’s a great feeling Corey, to be able to walk away from a female if you don’t get what you want… where as before I would often get pissed when I would get shot down. Now I don’t give a fuck. Dude Corey, I still get scared like a little girl sometimes when I approach a fine female, but I just tell myself she’s just another gal, and often within a few seconds/minutes I feel like the dominant one. It’s fucking great. However, I know that there is still room for improvement. I haven’t read your book in a while, however, the last time I read it, I highlighted parts/pages to serve as a reference. Especially in what I believe to be my weak aspects of where I need improvement. (Good job! I’m so proud of you! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Bob

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From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“Results, expected or chosen, but not in alignment with your inner nature, may come but at the expense of great difficulty, hard work and high maintenance. Individuals in poor alignment with their source will also have to extend considerable effort to gain and maintain their goals.” ~ J. Hamilton

Here’s how to make sure that the girl you want chooses you over all her options with other men. “Fear of loss is a path to the dark side.” ~ Master Yoda. I remember feeling awkward and unsure of myself around women in my early 20s. I had no game. I had no idea when to set a date, what to do on a date or when to go for the kiss. I remember the worst part of it all was I never knew where I stood with a woman. I simply did not know what to look for like most clueless guys. These simply aren’t skills we are taught. The following is an e-mail from a reader. Apparently he ran into his old girlfriend from high school after he came home from college. He says they have been going out for about two months now. He mentioned that they held hands. So I’m thinking he’s been going out with this girl all this time and he has never once tried to kiss her. He writes me because he feels insecure and he has no way to tell if she likes him. He’s worried about other guys ripping off his chick. He’s obviously not read my book yet. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey.

I have a problem with a girl that I really like. Actually I love her. (You better slow your roll with that “I love you” shit or she will give you the “let’s just be friends speech.”) We dated in high school when we were 16 for a year and a half. I broke up with her because I was going overseas to pursue my studies. I came back this year and somehow we met. (There are no accidents. Every encounter has a lesson. You have a gift for them and they have a gift for you. Don’t get attached to her or focus on the future with her. Only focus on the now and having a good time with her. Be present in the moment.) It has been close to two months now. The problem is that the 2nd time I met her I told her that I loved her and she said thank you. (Translation: “Slow your roll dude, we haven’t seen each other in years. I don’t love you yet, nor will I in the future if you don’t stop talking about your feelings. Just focus on showing me a good time and create an opportunity for sex to happen by taking me out, and then going for the kiss at the end of the date. If you are confident and don’t creep me out, you may just get lucky.”) I feel dumb and I know it’s the wrong thing to say, but that’s how I feel! (STOP TALKING ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS! YOU’RE ACTING LIKE A WOMAN!!! If you keep it up she will convert you to her male girlfriend and maybe she’ll invite you to her wedding to some other dude. Women need and want to wonder where they stand with you. It’s a scientific fact!) We have been going out for few times like once a week. (Which is it? A few times a week or once a week? Sounds like you’re trying to make things sound better than they are by embellishing.) We were holding hands and basically we were like a couple in public. (Have you ever kissed her or tried too? If you don’t she will judge you as a weak man and reject you by making you her male girlfriend or her friend with no benefits.) The thing is, I don’t know how she feels toward me and whether she likes me. (You sound totally clueless. You better fix that ASAP by reading my book. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) She did say before that I’m the only one in her heart, and that she loves me. (So what. That only applied to the moment in which she said it. When women speak of their feelings, they speak of how they feel only in the moment. Tomorrow they will feel differently depending on how much you get right or how much you screw up and turn them off.) Right now I’m really confused and insecure because I don’t want to lose her to other guys. (What you fear you ATTRACT, and what you look at DISAPPEARS! Forget about other guys. You simply need to focus on reading my book. Only call her once per week to ask her out for one definite date per week. Always go for a kiss at the end of every first date. If she likes you too, she will kiss you back. If not, she will turn her head and you will kiss her cheek. If you get her cheek, stop calling her for dates and go out with some other ladies so you can practice and master your skills of seduction.)

Help me!

Bob

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From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“You can’t own something, obtain something you want or be given someone’s heart freely without getting to a place where you are ok with not having it at all. It’s only when you can completely do without what you want, that it comes to you and becomes yours.” ~ Corey Wayne

Why women are very easy to seduce when you know what to look for & how to interact with them in a sexual way. Men and women both love sex. Human beings are sexual beings. The reason most men who want sex aren’t getting it, is because they simply do not know how to interact with women in a sexual way. The most important thing is that she obviously must feel an attraction for you in order for you to have a chance at seducing her. As long as you meet her minimum physical attractiveness requirement which is simply her seeing you as, “He’okay. He’s kind of cute, etc.” Then you simply have to not talk her out of sleeping with you. It’s shocking to most guys the first time this happens: when you are at a party, a social event or at a bar or nightclub and you bump into a woman and look into her eyes and can tell she wants you by the way she looks into your eyes. You look at her lips and then into her eyes and notice she’s looking at your lips too, and then you start making out after only knowing each other for about 5 seconds! It’s also really mind blowing to most men the first time they meet a woman and effortlessly hook up in bed after knowing each other for an hour or two. Society has taught us that things are not supposed to be this easy when it comes to sex and hooking up. The following is an e-mail from a reader who is surprised at how fast an 18-year-old hottie slept with him after only knowing her for a few hours. He’s a little unsure of what his next move should be. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hey Corey,

I read your book and check out every article you put out everyday. You are truly an inspiration, man! Here’s the situation I’ve got going on right now. I’m 22 and this girl is 18. She came over with her friends to my house. I have a few guy roommates also. We all drank and played beer pong and stuff like that. I sat down beside her and started talking about tattoos and all kinds of stuff. I got her number by the end of the night. They came back about 5 days later. We all drank again and it ended with the bedroom olympics. It was hilarious because she was telling me how she’d never done this kind of thing and had only had sex with her ex and didn’t want me to think she was a hoe. All I could think about is how you constantly say girls will say that. Man, you know your stuff ha ha. (I might not always be right, but I’m never wrong.) So for one, I want to say thank you because if it weren’t for you and your teachings, I never would’ve hooked up with her because I wouldn’t have had the balls to even say hi. (You’re welcome. This is your birthright as a man.) So here’s where I’m at now. Since then she’s texted me saying how much she misses me and how much she loved sleeping with me and all that. (Translation: “It’s so refreshing to be with a man who knows what to do! That is why I sleep with you. I like fucking you and I want you to fuck me again real soon!!!!!!”) So I went ahead and set a date for us to go out Wednesday. (Awesome! Make sure it’s at night so it can lead to sex. Create an opportunity for sex to happen. That is what a date is.) What I’m wondering is how I should play this one? (You treat ALL women the SAME. Rinse, recycle, repeat. Why take her out and spend money? You can simply have her come over to hang out and have sex again.) The fact that she was so easy to get into bed worries me that she might be that easy for everyone, (All women are like this. They like to fuck too!!! Most men simply talk them right out of sleeping with them. 97% of men she will meet will be clueless. She slept with you because you made it easy and made her feel safe and comfortable.) and maybe have a problem being faithful to someone. (STOP THIS RELATIONSHIP TALK NONSENSE IMMEDIATELY!!! That is a woman’s department, not the man’s. Your job as a man is simply to create the next fun filled opportunity for sex to happen. She only shared herself with you because you proved yourself worthy by acting worthy and being direct. Women are sexually frustrated too because so many men are clueless!) What I’m saying is do I date her like I would any other girl that I haven’t slept with? (Keep doing what you are doing. Why would you want to change your approach when its working? Don’t complicate things or you will fuck it up and she will stop sleeping with you!!!) Or do I just keep her in the friends with benefits zone? (Just keep having her come over to hang and have sex. If you feel like going out and doing something with her, that’s ok too. You should be doing this with other women too so you can develop SWAGGER!!! That will get you laid even more and by higher quality women as your skills of seduction improve. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) I hope this makes sense. Thanks for all you do brother!

Tom

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“Adam Carolla used to say that when a woman likes you, the doors start opening. i.e. Every step of the courtship dance becomes easy because she’s letting you in, and all you have to do is walk through. And if those doors start shutting in your face, time to move on.” ~ YouTube viewer comment

The proper way to walk away from a woman after a breakup so she starts chasing & wanting you back again. When a woman you are dating decides to unilaterally change the terms of your relationship by either breaking up with you or telling you she only wants to be friends from now on, the only way to get her back is to communicate you’re not interested in the new terms she’s offering, tell her to call you if she changes her mind and walk away and never look back. It’s simply standing up for yourself and what you want. To stick around while putting up with relationship terms that are not to your liking in the hopes that she will change her mind, is weak and non-manly behavior. Men who put up with these situations have become submissive to the woman, and therefore, since they act like a woman, they will only be considered a male girlfriend. The following is an e-mail from a reader who used my advice for getting an ex back by stating what he wanted, but not backing it up with actions. Men in these situations think that by just throwing words at a woman will get her to do what they want. This never will work because their words and actions are not congruent. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey

First off, thanks for the brilliant advice. (It only will help you if you actually follow it instead of cherry picking parts, or things to say, but not altering your approach in any way overall.) To cut a long story short, this is my attempt at rekindling a romance that I royally fucked up because of ignorance. Please let me know what you make of her responses. The day after these messages, we spoke for five hours on skype. (What? The phone/skype/email/texting/messaging/etc. is for setting appointments, not spending 5 hours chatting, but spending no time together physically.) Silly I know, I’m better now. (You may feel better, but you’ve done nothing to help your case by chatting for five hours on skype. You’re cherry picking my advice; this leads to failure.) I haven’t contacted her for 5 days and when I do it will be to set up a definite date. (When you walk away from a woman who breaks up with you and puts you in friends zone, you don’t continue to call and pursue her!!!! Duh!!! You’re saying you’re walking away because you don’t like the new terms she is offering for your relationship, but then you continue to chase her like nothing has happened. That makes you look weak and incongruent with your words. You’ll still get rejected as your approach has not changed at all. Women are attracted to men who say what they mean, and mean what they say.)

Me: “Look, I adore you and I’m really sorry for all the hurt and what I did to you, but if you’re not willing to work this out, there really is nothing to talk about. You know I love you. Let me know if you change your mind, but unless you want to pick up where we left off, I don’t want to talk to you anymore. I want to move on with my life. I’m not interested in being your friend. I’m interested in being your lover. As I said, let me know if you change your mind. This just doesn’t work for me. I’m out of here. I’m not into all this. It just does NOT work for me.” (You’re being redundant. This strategy to get an ex back is something you say, and then do. It is a statement of your purpose, that must be followed up with actions that are congruent with your words. Not something you say and it magically goes back to the way you want it. You don’t just throw words around and expect her panties to come off!!!)

Her: “It’s good to know that you at least recognize that you hurt me. Where we left off… you mean the situation where we would still be “sexbuddies” with the condition that we wouldn’t have to know each others lives, this way you would be my lover? or the situation where you treated me like a “dumbass” and then came running saying sorry because you forgot to put a smile at the end:O for example? (This tells me you have acted like a needy little jackass who has constantly chased and therefore turned her off.) Because if it is to go back to that, I rather prefer to stay the way we are now. I am really tired of you expecting me to forgive every single little “crisis” of yours, and then trying to excuse yourself some way!” (Translation: “I’m tired of you acting like a needy insecure jackass. I don’t think you mean what you say. Therefore, let’s just stay friends. Women bluff to test your strength. She bluffed, and you caved by blowing up her skype for five hours.”)

Me: “Wow, thanks for noticing, pointing out and reminding me bout all my bad points, I love you too ”

Her: “You’re lucky that I spoke in general, cause had I referred to all the bad points I’d never leave here ” (You should not contact her at all. Wait to hear from her then set up a definite date when she does call. If you’re too weak to do that, you will never get out of friends zone. You need to read my book ASAP and grow a set of balls. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Thanks,

Bob

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Corey Wayne
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“The strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it.” ~ Michael Yon

How to tell when a woman is taking advantage of you so you don’t end up getting screwed over. Some guys in their own neediness and desperation for love, will often get involved with women who only want to be their friend and are clear about their intentions, but the guys mistakenly assume she’ll change her mind if they just do enough things for her. They figure if they wait on her hand and foot and try to solve all of her problems, that eventually she will fall in love with them. The only thing that ends up happening is that they get used, they waste their money and sometimes months or years of their lives on women they have no chance with. The following is an e-mail from a reader who I answered some other questions of his in a recent YouTube video. He was trying to get this woman to love him who has constantly told him she’s only interested in friendship. A few weeks later, now she’s moved in to one of his spare bedrooms, she has no job or income, she asks him for money and when he gives it to her, she tells him to get out of her room! He’s written me this time asking me if I think he’s getting used. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey,

Please tell me what to do because she has now moved in to stay with me in the same house. Yet she still doesn’t want me to say anything. (Translation: “I don’t want you to tell anyone because I don’t want people thinking we are together because we are not together.”) Last night I walked by her room trying to make my way out because the previous day, she asked me for some money. I asked her does she really love me and she says “yes.” (Translation: “I love you as a friend, but you can think whatever you want because I need some money.”) She was smiling at me. I gave her the money anyway, but then she asked me to get out of the room. (Translation: “Thanks for the money you sucker, now get out of my room because I don’t want you thinking I want anything other than friendship with you. I’m just using you, but you seem all too happy to let me live with you for free and give me money, so as long as you let me use you, I will be happy to do it.”) In fact, it was very embarrassing. (Your inner voice and intuition was saying, “Dude! What the fuck is wrong with you? She’s using you because you are letting her.” No one will ever do or say anything to you that you don’t invite them to do.) How do I stop her from coming close? (What? Coming close to what? Complete clear sentences are helpful. I don’t know what the fuck you’re asking me about there.) I always feel pity for her too since she is not working at the moment. Is she really taking advantage of me? (Dude, you already know she’s using you! You’ve compromised your values and are letting this chick walk all over you in your neediness for love. That’s pretty fucking weak and pathetic. You need to tell this loser to hit the road and find some other sucker to walk all over and use. BE A MAN!!! Take some pride in yourself and get this taker and user out of your life forever so you can start meeting & dating other women who you actually have a chance with so you can learn to improve and master your skills of seduction.)

Please show me how to get your book, I need it badly thanks. (You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Emma.

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From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“It’s easy to be led astray when you’re so broken. People take advantage of you.” ~ Willie Aames

Why women don’t want control of the direction of a relationship & why they reject you if you let them have it. Women want men to handle making all of the plans and arrangements to get together for a date or a sexcapade. Women are sexually attracted to men who exhibit dominant alpha male behavior. They simply want to show up and have fun which easily and effortlessly leads to sex. Women want to be filled up by a man’s strength and presence physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. Women always test a man’s strength and worthiness to see if they can get him to compromise his principles or give the power to them. Women can’t stand men who are indecisive or have a hard time making a decision. Never ask a woman what she wants to do on a date. If you do, 99.999% of all women will simply respond back with, “what do you want to do?” Women want to be with men who know what to do. Women love sex just as much as men do and yearn for a man who knows how to create an opportunity for sex to happen where she can just let go and receive him. Women are physically designed to receive a man. When you feel attraction for a woman and it’s obvious the feeling is mutual, she’s hoping it will lead to great sex and romance. Most men totally get in the way of allowing sex to happen by being too serious instead of just having fun. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He met a girl when he was really not interested in dating anyone and gave out his phone number without asking for hers. The next day she texted him and he set up a date. However, since he did not know about my work yet, he made a lot of mistakes that caused her to put him in friends zone. She still texts him and he wants to know the right way to respond so he can get what he wants. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Corey,

I stumbled upon your videos on your website the other day while searching for inspiration from clips from romantic movies no doubt – that’s how deep I was in. Over the past two days I’ve watched many of them and read your book. You really helped me snap out of it and I appreciate it.

It’s been a slow year girl wise because I started my own business last year and it ate away all my time and money. Now things are settled but I’m rusty. I started talking to a girl at a party of a mutual friend several months ago. At the time I was too busy to date so when I didn’t get the sense that I would go home with her that night. I just said goodnight and didn’t ask for her number. A couple weeks later our friend told me she had been asking about me, and I said sure set it up. So a couple weeks after that at our mutual friends party we met, clicked, left early to go on our own adventure and had a great little make out party. I didn’t even get her number. I gave her mine though and she texted me the next day saying how much fun she had. I made a definite date with her. We went out for a coffee date at 6 that ended at 3 AM.

First five dates I did more right then wrong. She definitely matched the high interest level requirements and we were having a lot of fun. The next five dates I started screwing up. I moved too fast, talked too much, confided too much, definitely lost my masculinity. She didn’t back up though so I was pretty convinced a relationship was going to start. (Stop that line of thinking. It’s the women who decide when they want a relationship.) We ended up in bed twice, but no sex went down, no reciprocation, kind of flat. So when she offered to cook me dinner for our 10th date, I really blew it by asking what was going on? (You basically started acting like a woman. Love is playful and fun, not serious.) We talked about it, she said she was in a bad place and didn’t know me well enough. (That is a total BS excuse. Translation: “You are trying to force me to do something I am not ready to do. You’re complicating things and this is making me lose interest in you.”)

I should point out that she is in a bad place. (That’s a total bullshit excuse and it’s completely irrelevant to her and you. You should have just kept making dates and hooking up and things would have been fine.) She works in child protection services and was in the middle of a nasty trial for one of her clients. But I don’t buy the “didn’t know me well enough” excuse. (Smart, because it was total bullshit.) Anyways, our next date I told her that I was looking for a romantic relationship, and wasn’t interested in being friends so we couldn’t see each other anymore. Then, several days later she texted me saying that she was disappointed we couldn’t hang out anymore, but she was only willing to be friends. I took the bait. (BIG FUCKING MISTAKE!!! You said you’re unwilling to be friends, she called to test you, and you caved like a pussy. Therefore, you failed her test and she feels she made the right decision putting you into friends zone. You communicated, “I’m taking the power back,” she said “really?” and then your response communicated… “not really, I’m sorry your highness, I’ll be a good little boy now… will you please love me?”) Without giving you all the details, we’ve been hanging out ever since and the only thing I’ve done right is to make sure I kiss her at the end of every night. (In other words, you agreed to be her little bitch, male girlfriend, butler, etc.) She kisses back, so I didn’t blow it 100%, but it has to be damn near 99%. (yep) The last time we hung out, we had fun, we kissed as usual but afterwards I felt weird. I realized I was totally emasculated. She called all the shots, controlled the whole thing. (You let her. You handed her all the power by starting to act like a dopey woman instead of a confident alpha male.) So I looked for answers, found your stuff and immediately deleted her contact info. It’s time to take two huge steps back. She texted me on Friday night on her way out of town in what felt like a feeler to see what I was up to. I ignored it and just deleted the text. (Smart for not answering her in the evening. Plus, she’s only offering friendship when you want more. Therefore, it’s no longer a priority for you to respond to her texts right away. Anytime a woman who is not your girlfriend texts you after 7 pm, always wait until the next day to respond. Why? She’ll wonder what you are doing. Especially when she says, “What did you do last night?” and you said, “I just hung with a friend.” She’ll assume it’s another woman and that you’re not waiting around on her. Science has proven women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.)

I don’t know if making her chase will work or if its too late. (It’s the only thing that will work. Chasing women guarantees rejection.) The point is, it doesn’t matter. I feel like I’m in control now and since then I’ve met two girls, immediately got their numbers and set the ground work for a third that I run into regularly. (Don’t beat around the bush with women EVER!!! Be direct and get to the point immediately. Get her number and get on to the next one.) I do really care about the friend girl, but like you say, why put your interest in a place where it’s not reciprocated? The only thing I’m unsure of is when she gets back, how to respond to her texts. They will come, I’m sure of that. It’s been two months and we formerly texted daily. A question text I figure I’ll give a short answer. A statement text I’ll respond with, that’s cool, you should tell me more about that when I take you out next bla bla bla. (No more dates and wasted money on this girl. When she texts you, only do 3 or 4 texts max back and forth. If she does not bring up getting together by the 4th text, then text, “I suppose you want to get together?” Then, if she says “no” to that text or some other BS, say, “Hey, I gotta run, but keep in touch.” If she says, “sure” to getting together, then, ONLY invite her to your place for drinks by saying, “when are you free?” and wait for her to respond. Then say, “Drinks? My place Tuesday 7 pm? My address is… 123 oak street, etc.” or whatever day she’s available that you are also. Include your address if she does not have it. Wait for her response. If she tries to change the plans or get you to take her to dinner somewhere or meet out somewhere, then text back, “No thanks. I’m just in the mood to chill at my place. Let’s do it some other time then.” She’ll either change her tune and agree to come over, or say “ok.” This will be the ONLY WAY you respond to her from now on. If she comes over, make sure she does 70-80% of the talking by asking questions. Then, when she seems comfortable say, “I think you need to come over here and kiss me.” She’ll either do it or give an excuse. If you start making out, then just follow this plan to close the deal in the bedroom. If she brings up the friendship thing again instead of kissing you, say, “I’m not into that. I’m not looking for a relationship, I just want to have fun. If you’re not cool with that, then let’s just call it a night, I’m tired anyways.” and escort her to the door.) Otherwise, I have no way of texting her first (DON’T INITIATE ANY MORE CONTACT WITH THIS GIRL EVER!!! Only respond to her contacting you first.) and I’ll just concentrate on meeting other women. (By meeting more women to practice your skills on, you’ll get better and become a master of seducing women. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Thanks a lot.

Devon

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From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“Your true Self which is your spirit, your soul, is immune to criticism, it is unfearful of any challenge and it feels beneath no one.” ~ Deepak Chopra

How to tell when a girl really wants to date you & when you’ve got no chance at all. So many guys are confused by the things women do and say that they will often spend several weeks or even months working up the courage to ask a girl out, or continually asking a girl out after she’s told them no. Women don’t like confrontations. Therefore, they often won’t be direct and tell the guy they’re not interested. They’ll give him flaky answers when he asks for a date such as, “I have to check my schedule. I’ll get back to you. I’ll have to see if I can make it, etc.” Men who are unaware of what these responses really mean can often be totally snowed into believing they’ve got a chance. Therefore, they call week after week trying to set dates even though they’ve got no chance. Most women figure that eventually you’ll realize they really don’t want to go out with you and simply stop calling them. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He’s young and inexperienced, but he’s trying to successfully employ what I teach. He’s beat around the bush quite a bit over the past several months while he got up the nerve to ask a girl out that he likes. She’s jerking him around, but it appears his high interest has blinded him to this reality. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi, Corey

Last year, I met a lovely girl in the University. I’m 19 and she’s 21. I know she likes that the man takes the initiative when dating, so I made the first step. 2 weeks ago, in a conversation, I told her that a friend of mine was going to play with his band in a bar that is inside a casino. (That’s weak. Women like men who are direct and get to the point. You beat around the bush because you are afraid of rejection.) The next week, a Tuesday, I texted her “Would you like to come to the bar I told you about?” (A date is a romantic opportunity for sex to happen. Group dates for a first date is a waste of time. Do you really want to bring a girl on a first date to a loud bar/concert? How are you going to have a conversation to get to know each other if you both are screaming at each other because it’s so loud? Not to mention cock-blocking drunk friends who are clueless with women interfering.) 2 hours after, she answered “Maybe I go, but I’ll check if I can.” (Translation: “No, I don’t want to go, but I don’t want to reject you over the phone. Hopefully you will get the hint and go away like most men do when I don’t call you.”) Then, Wednesday I saw her online, but didn’t talk to her. I waited for Thursday. At night I texted her, “Hey, which did you decide?” (She said she was going to check. You did not give her the space to call you back. This communicates neediness. You are calling to verify a date. Men who are successful with women either make definite dates, or they withdraw the offer saying, “Let’s just do it another time when your schedule is more open.”) She answered me on Friday. She said that she couldn’t go because her mom didn’t want her to go to a casino. (That’s a lame bullshit answer.) So I texted her “if the next show isn’t in a casino, would you go?” …and she just said “Ok”. (Notice her lack of enthusiasm and the fact that she offers no other day or time to get together and hang out?) Anyway, I went with my friends. (Smart guy.)

I wanna invite her to another place. I’ll wait until next week to text her again because maybe she’ll feel I’m chasing her too much. (It sounds like she’s just hoping you go away and leave her alone.) A friend’s birthday is near and I don’t know if taking her to the party would be a good option? (HELL NO!!!! Be a man and take her out on a date, just the two of you. Are you scared to be alone with a girl on a date? Women will judge you as weak when you constantly try to take them out on group dates. FYI-women who don’t want to date you will sometimes ask you to meet her and her friends out so she can use her friends as interference.) Should I invite her to a place with only the two of us? (Duh!) I’d like to take her to the movies, (How can you get to know her when you’re both watching a movie? Going to the movies is a date for people who are already in a relationship. Not a first date.) or something different like bowling. (Bowling is good because it’s an activity where you both are walking around. This gives her the chance to touch you when she feels comfortable.) I’m thinking about asking her out on a date again via text because I hardly ever see her at the University. (Ask her out only ONE more time. If she gives you the same flakey kind of response, then delete her number and move on to the next girl.) I just started developing my skills of seduction. I don’t want to make mistakes with this girl. (I don’t think she’s into you at all based upon what you’ve shared here, but ask her out once more and see if she’s actually willing to meet you out for drinks/dinner. Women who like you will make it easy to see them. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Thank you,

Bob

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Why people don’t change who they are & why trying to get others to change will ruin your relationships. When life brings us situations, people, things, etc. that are different from what we wish them to be, we suffer. When we can’t change things, but we want them to be different than they are, we suffer. Suffering comes from not accepting what is or from not accepting what reality is. If you can’t change the circumstances of your life quick enough to your liking, the only thing you can change immediately is what it means to you, or the meaning that you give it. When it comes to relationships, we all tend to get a little pissed off when our lover does not do the things we want or expect. We get angry for them being the way they are, instead of accepting and loving them unconditionally.

The next time you are around a group of people in private or in public, notice the conversations and what people talk about. You’ll notice that a lot of the conversation revolves around talking about other people and wishing they were different. Everybody does it, including me. However, since I am aware of it and how this leads to suffering, I’ve learned to catch myself and remember that if I dwell on what I don’t like or what I wish was different, this will lead to suffering. I spent most of my life suffering over things I could not change like most people. Acceptance of what is instead of trying to change it leads to feeling peaceful, relaxed, grateful, content and abundant. The following is an e-mail from a reader who has a bisexual girlfriend who has a lot of close friends who are swingers. He’s ultraconservative and does not approve of her or her friends values regarding sex and relationships. She’s loyal to him, but she still likes to walk around naked with her swinger friends and sit naked in a hot tub with other men and women. He wants her to stop being like this and has asked for my opinion on the situation. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi,

I’ve been dating this girl for about two months and we connect on a lot of levels. She lives in the country. The drive is about an hour from my place and we both have memorable times. The part that is bothering me right now… she hangs out with swingers and bi-sexual women. (Most women are bisexual, but will not admit it if you ask them directly.) She is loyal and I have the confidence to trust her around this group. She does not participate in these sexual festivals, but the influence is evident. She does things like getting naked in a hot tub with men and women, but nothing happens. The other instance was her married friend’s husband kissed her on the lips, the swinger. This happened before we were an item. This guy wacked her on the ass. Her friends commented whether she was sleeping with him, but she denied any connection. She still hangs out with these individuals. Overall, this group of friends is bothering me because it doesn’t fit my values. (Well, your girlfriend was like this and had these friends before she ever knew who you were. If who she is and her friends lifestyle does not fit your values, then you should find a more conservative and less sexually open woman. It’s selfish of you to expect her to change who she is and abandon her friends so you don’t feel uncomfortable. When we want others to be different or act different than they are, we suffer. If you are dating a woman who has a lifestyle or friends who have a different value system than your own, you have a choice: either accept and love them as they are, or leave the relationship to find someone who is more like you and who shares your conservative values. Sure, you can get her to change for a while, but eventually she will resent you and you will resent her because you are not celebrating and appreciating who she is as a woman. You will simply make both of you miserable. She’ll never live up to your high standards or values. Those are YOUR VALUES, not hers. The purpose of all relationships is you go there to give. Not to try to change people into who you think they should be.)

I’m confident in the way I look and I thank my good European genetics. There’s tons of women out there and I don’t want any complicated relationship. (You should seriously consider and contemplate the truth that human beings don’t change who they are, they simply can only become better versions of themselves.) In all, I did not argue or react to any of these sexual comments, but it’s not what I want in a girlfriend if this continues. I don’t want other men to see my girlfriend naked or influence her with this messed up sexual crap. (Well, then you should seriously consider finding a woman who already exemplifies and lives the values that are important to you instead of trying to make your current girlfriend into what you wish she could be. If you try to force, cajole or manipulate her into changing who she is, you’ll both end up miserable. There have been countless books written on the futility of trying to change people. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Any advice would be helpful,

Your friend,

Bob

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1) Make a donation to my work via the “PayPal Donate” button located on the “Wibiya” toolbar (right hand side) that runs along the bottom of every page of my website anytime you feel I have added significant value to your life. You tip your favorite bartender, right? How about a buck… $2… $3… $5… $10… what ever YOU feel its worth, every time you feel I have given you a good tip, new knowledge or helpful insight. Please feel free to donate any amount you think is equal to the value you received from my eBook & Home Study Course (audio lessons), articles, videos, emails, newsletters, etc.

2) Referring your friends and family to this website by clicking the Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Google +1, etc. social network sharing buttons located on the “Wibiya” tool bar at the bottom of this page, so they can start learning and improving their dating and relationship life, happiness, balance and overall success in every area of their lives too!

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From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“People don’t change. They only become better versions of themselves. Either love and accept them as God created them, or move on to find someone who is exactly like what you want.” ~ Corey Wayne