Here’s how & why, quickly recovering from rejection & moving on with some new dates helps you get your ex back! The worst thing you can do after a breakup or getting rejected, is to sit around moping and thinking about the one that got away. If you’ve recently been rejected or dumped by your wife or girlfriend, getting back in the saddle and dating new women is the quickest way to get over a breakup, and also the best way to get your ex back. Why? The best thing to do is walk away completely and never look back when you have been dumped. Leave the door open by telling you’re ex to call you if they change their mind in the future, but seek to meet and date as many new women as you can find. Since human beings tend to forget the negative things that happened in the past slowly over time, and as the days weeks and months go by after a breakup, your ex may start questioning their actions that led to your breakup. They may start thinking they made a mistake. Fear of loss will cause them to come forward and chase you again, as long as their interest level has not fallen below the 51% level & if you give them the space to miss you. However, most guys tend to plead, beg and chase women into losing all respect for them, thereby, ruining any chance of getting back together in the future. The following is an e-mail from a reader. A few months ago he got dumped by his fiancée. He listened to my advice and has started meeting and dating several new women. Recently he ran into his ex shortly before his date with another woman. It would appear she has become jealous and a little upset that he has moved on, even though she is sleeping with another man. I point out some key things that may reveal she is starting to want him back. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Corey,

Remember me? Ex is living across the street. I moved on as both of us, you first, knew it was the right thing to do. I had not seen her or spoke to her for over a month, maybe a little longer. I had to stop into where she works. She works for one of my business partners. She was surprised to see me and I can tell you since I was going there before going out on a date, I LOOKED GOOOOOOOOOOD. (Probably beaming with confidence and excited about your date. It’s her loss for letting you go.) Made the change, head high, the whole works. (Good job! Alpha male body language.) She was nice to me and me to her. Made her laugh a bit. (Love is ALWAYS playful and fun, not serious.) While I was there I received a call from from not one, but 2 of the girls I’m dating. (That’s pretty convenient! This instantly communicates high status and that you are successful with other women.) The first was in front of her. I took the call outside but said “Hi Jenn” before going out to talk. (Great timing. When you’re in the flow everything seems to line up for you.) The 2nd I was in my partners office when Jordan called. She could hear me say, “Hi Jordan, can I call you right back?” Then my business partner asked me how my date with Tina went. (Awesome! It contributes to the mythology of you as an alpha male who is popular with the ladies.) As I was leaving I said goodbye to my Ex, and I couldn’t believe how pissed off she was. What gives with that? (You should be ready at all times with better comebacks. So what. That’s her problem. Never let anything a woman does or says get under your skin. She was upset that you are so happy and seem to have all these other women chasing you. Obviously the “just for sex” relationship she is having isn’t turning out to be all that it was cracked up to be. You looked like you have not skipped a beat in life and have moved on. Maybe she has been thinking about you more and more lately. Maybe even regretting a few things or the harsh way she dumped you for the bartender. Then she finds out you are fucking half of the town, or so she assumes. She’s not happy in her relationship, but you seem like you are doing fantastic!) She moved on with this other guy. I know you say it’s not so much what they say, but what they do. But really, I’m kind of confused. I was still nice as I left, said it was good seeing her. (She sounds like she is jealous of you moving on, maybe because she has been starting to regret her choices and questions if she is happier off without you. She may be starting to look at your past thru rose colored glasses and forget the bad things. So what should you do? Nothing. Keep dating and hooking up with new women. I’m sure some of it will get back to her. If she wants you back or wants to rekindle things, she will contact you. If she does, invite her over. Tell her to bring a nice bottle of wine and some snacks. Focus on making her laugh, sexual innuendo, playful banter and simply having a good time. No serious subjects. If she starts blabbing about the past and what happened, just tell her: “The past does not equal the future. You should kiss me passionately right now and I promise you’ll feel much better. Don’t think! Just kiss me!” Make sure she does 70%-80% of the talking by asking questions. Say, “Really? Wow. No shit? That really happened? Tell me more, etc.” 90% of the time you are charming James Bond. 10% of the time you are the naughty boy who flushes an M-80 down the toilet at school and blows up the pipes. Be direct to get what you want. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Jerry

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Corey Wayne
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“Champions aren´t made in the gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them: a desire, a dream, a vision.” ~ Muhammad Ali

Here’s why women become cold, distant, flakey and cancel dates when everything seemed to being going great initially. Something that is very important to understand is that when you do things wrong with a woman in a relationship, her interest level in you drops slowly over time. Most men think that once a woman tells him she loves him, that she will always feel this way automatically towards him. This is just one of the many ways men become complacent in their relationships. They become complacent and lazy and therefore, they stop doing the things that made them successful in the relationship to begin with. These guys never have time for their wives or families, but they always seem to find the time for a divorce lawyer. The worst position for a guy to be in is for him to be doing and saying things that turn his girl off and lower her level of romantic interest in him without realizing it. Worse, he doesn’t even notice that her interest level in him is dropping, usually, until it’s too late and she dumps him. Don’t be one of those clueless guys! Guys have a real hard time remaining objective and underrating a woman’s level of interest in him. Most men project their high level of interest onto a woman, while ignoring the fact there are little to no signs of mutual romantic interest. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He’s recently read my book, but instead of using it to meet new women who he can have a fresh start with, he’s trying to rekindle things with women he blew it with in the past. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey,

This is Dias, I have a little concern and want to ask for your advice. I met this girl back in 2010. We were really into each other. Our relationship lasted only 3 to 4 months, and trust me we really loved each other, and it is still the case today. We broke up because she’s an international student. She was saying she might leave the country to Canada soon and she didn’t want to get any deeper into those overwhelming feelings. (Things were going so well and she loved you so much, that she had to break up with you? I think while she initially liked you, you did things that lowered her level of romantic interest in you to the point where she lost interest and just wanted to be friends. She made up a BS excuse about moving away for college as the reason for the breakup. She did not have the guts to be honest and tell you that you lowered her interest level by doing too many things wrong. Most women like to avoid drama and saying things that hurt your feelings. Therefore, they make up half-truths that help them get what they want without creating drama and awkward situations. Women are emotional beings who try to avoid hurting your feelings, even if it means misleading you. They hope that you simply figure things out on your own later.)

So long story short. We finally separated and guess what??? She still lives 2 hours away from me as of today. (Big shock! She was bullshitting you.) After our break up, we kept in touch, Facebook, email, texting, etc. I have tried to see her again several times but at the last minutes she cancelled our dates for obscure reasons. (That is because she really did not want to see you. Maybe she hooked up with an old boyfriend, met a guy who understood women better than you, etc.) She loves me, she misses me. (If she really loved and missed you, she would have kept your dates. You are projecting your high interest level onto her and ignoring the fact she is showing signs of low interest. Women help you when they like you. That includes chasing you and making it easy to get a date with them.) I know, she told me a several times, I do too. (You ALWAYS look at what a woman does, not what she says.) I also know, as you said in one of your articles and in your book, why she cancelled our dates at the last minute several times. Therefore, after realizing my mistakes, I stopped any more contact with her. (Good for you! It takes balls to do that. Most guys can’t stomach the thought of finding out she is not interested in them, so they keep bullshitting themselves hoping things will change. For some weak men, ignorance is bliss!) I stopped trying to see her. I told myself if she really wants to see me, she will initiate the contact first. (Yes! Now you’re talking!) If she does, then I’ll play my cards right and turn this situation around. Despite the fact that she sometimes liked or commented on my Facebook posts, I didn’t try to force the communication, or to contact her. I have just been a cool friend for about 5, 6 months now. On Feb 14th she texted me, wishing me Happy Valentines day and we exchanged texts for just a few minutes. (Invite her to come see you when she does that. Why should you always have to travel?)

She said I forgot her, (Translation: “I kind of miss you since you’ve stopped contacting me.”) while I know exactly how and where to find her. Hearing all her “bla-bla-bla” I just shake my head, and let that pass by. I told her I have come to her neighborhood several times, but never get to see her around. I was lying of course. She was pissed off and said “Please, do me a favor. Next time you come around shoot me a text, hit me on Facebook or something.” So I said, “I might be there again next month, I’ll hit u up” and she said “great!” Now I don’t want to make any mistake this time. Since I have read your book, I feel like I have grown up a little. I want to settle something nice and clean. I don’t want to let her cancel our dates again. (If she is going to cancel your date, there is nothing you can do. You must let it happen. When a woman cancels two dates, she’s out! The only way you should schedule another date with this girl, is if she messages or text’s you first and brings up getting together. Let her bring up getting together or seeing you. If she does not, then don’t bring it up yourself. Why? The last time you were chivalrous enough to invite her on dates, she blew you off at the last minute like you meant nothing to her. Why? Because at that time, she knew she could get away with it and you would still come back; plus she did not really want to see you. You reward a woman’s good behavior and treating you with respect by giving her your time and presence. When a woman is rude, disrespectful, takes you for granted or cancels dates for BS reasons, she gets less and less of your time and presence. You spend your time with women who are grateful to have you in their lives.)

Do you think I should propose to pick her up, so she don’t play with me again? (Make her come to visit you in your city if she contacts you and brings up getting together. You made several attempts to go see her in her city, but she blew you off each time. Unless she’s willing to come meet you someplace in your city, tell her you’re not interested. Tell her that you want to see her make an effort to see you and appreciate you. If that’s too much to ask, she should call some other guy to go out with her.) I haven’t told her when exactly yet I will get there. How soon before that day you think I will let her know? On the actual date, do you think I should talk about our past? How much she has cancelled our dates? Or how we broke up in 2010 thinking of her leaving the country, but that she’s still here? Other thoughts? (No need to bring any of the past up. The past does not equal the future. This also means that if she wants to be in your future, she needs to make a radical effort to treat you better than she did in the past. It takes two. This girl has not made sufficient effort to warrant any more of your precious and limited time. The amount of days you have been on this planet is getting longer, while the amount of days you have left is getting shorter! That’s something to think about before you spend any more emotional or mental energy thinking about her. Get busy meeting and dating some new women. Stop trying to heat up leftovers or rekindle things with ex girlfriends or girls who blew you off. Create something new. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Thank you Corey!

Dias

If you have any questions or comments you can post them directly below in the facebook comments system which appears after the end of this article. If you have a question you would like me to answer via email, you can send it to this email address: Questions@UnderstandingRelationships.com

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1) Make a donation to my work via the “PayPal Donate” button located on the “Wibiya” toolbar (right hand side) that runs along the bottom of every page of my website anytime you feel I have added significant value to your life. You tip your favorite bartender, right? How about a buck… $2… $3… $5… $10… what ever YOU feel its worth, every time you feel I have given you a good tip, new knowledge or helpful insight. Please feel free to donate any amount you think is equal to the value you received from my eBook & Home Study Course (audio lessons), articles, videos, emails, newsletters, etc.

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From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“Success depends upon previous preparation, & without such preparation there is sure to be failure.” ~ Confucius

How to tell when you’ve got a chance with a girl you like & when you should cut your losses and move on to find someone else! One of the hardest things for an egocentric man to admit to himself is, that not all women who he finds attractive, are going to be attracted to him. Sometimes no matter how much you like a girl, you simply don’t do it for her. Even if you think she is the most beautiful woman in the world. If she thinks you are a troll, then to her you’re a troll. You can’t take it personally. You simply need to move on to the next woman. At the end of the day when you meet a woman you like you simply want to know the answer to one simple question, “Honey, are you in, or are you out?” Not that you are going to say it in that way, but you simply want to know as quick as possible upon meeting a woman, if you have any chance with her at all. Men and women both tend to project their own high romantic interest level onto the person they desire without noticing or even looking to see if the feeling is mutual. Ignoring the reality that the woman you like doesn’t like you, can lead to enormous setbacks in your pickup, dating and relationship life. People who continue to stay fixated on lovers they cannot have or ever be with, do so because they feel moving on to find someone new would be more painful than staying fixated on what they can not have. Human beings in general will always do more to avoid pain, than they will do to gain pleasure. They think going after what they want will be a lot more uncomfortable than staying fixated on what they cannot have. Most people will always choose unhappiness over taking risks and pursuing their dreams. The following is an e-mail I got from a reader. He is bullshitting himself into believing that he can force a girl he likes, but who is uninterested in him, to fall for him and become his girlfriend. He tells himself the reason why she ignores him is simply because she does not know him. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Corey,

My standards are so high, I only have one girl on my mind. (Translation: I don’t want to try and find someone else. That would require work on my part. It’s much easier to stay fixated on this girl who does not want me. Then I can blame her as the reason why I don’t have a girlfriend.) She may assume that I don’t understand women enough by failing one of her tests, but these tests are weak, immature and do not prove the real me. (It’s not about you. All women test men to determine the type of guy they are really dealing with. Their tests let them know if you are a freak, a potential stalker, a control freak, if you understand women, etc. They are the weaker sex physically, so they must be good at spotting and blowing off the stalkers and abusive men so they stay safe. If you act like a stalker, women will avoid you like the plague.) It’s an immature test that has never proven itself in history. (It’s how they protect themselves physically, as well as their hearts. You are ignoring reality.) She don’t call me cause she doesn’t know me. (You’re bullshitting yourself. She doesn’t call you because she does not like you romantically.) A lot of women have the theory they are not supposed to call guys. (Not so much these days. Even if they were taught they should not call men, they do it anyways. Confident women call guys they want.) I want to call her and will, I don’t care if she’s not interested. (Why? Do you plan on becoming a stalker? Grow a set of balls and move on to find a woman who you actually have a chance with. You are wasting your valuable and limited time on this planet carrying a torch for a woman who does not share a mutual attraction for you.) We are both on probation. (No, you’re not even on probation. You did not make the cut in her book. The only way she could be on dating probation with you is if she actually liked you, and went out on dates with you.) I have to get to know her. (Never try to keep someone who does not want to keep you. Get to know someone who actually wants to get to know you. You can’t force women to like you.) Maybe I can create non-chasing questions and opinions. (Listen to how silly that statement sounds. The very act of you calling her and trying to make or force things to happen and progress, is chasing. There is NO EFFORT coming from her side. You are simply projecting your high interest level onto her and ignoring the fact she does not feel the same.) I text her what motivates her in life and she answers. I text her “can you name some old films in your collection?” and she doesn’t answer that text. (That is because she has no interest in you. Women make it obvious when they like you.) It’s silly that women are programmed to go for a guy that’s not interested in who they really are. (They are not programmed that way. Women feel attraction to men who ask the right questions to get to know them. However, you must pass her minimum physical attraction test in order to have a chance with her. You either make the cut or you don’t. Attraction isn’t a choice. You either push enough of their buttons or you don’t. Don’t take it personally. Just move on to the next one when you get rejected.) It’s breeding morons that are not interested in finding their real self as well. (Another excuse you make to bullshit yourself into not taking any action to improve your situation. You must participate in your own rescue. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Tom

If you have any questions or comments you can post them directly below in the facebook comments system which appears after the end of this article. If you have a question you would like me to answer via email, you can send it to this email address: Questions@UnderstandingRelationships.com

If you would like to inquire about how I can help coach you to be at your best personally, exceed your wildest expectations of what you are capable of and to see if you are a good fit for my phone coaching program, send me an email and include your name, contact number, best times and days to contact you, and the time zone/country you are in. Here’s my email address to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation with me personally (phone coaching inquiries only): Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com. If I think you and I are a good fit and I accept you into my phone coaching program, we will schedule further sessions at that time based upon your most important goals and outcomes.

If you would like to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation via Skype, please send me an email with the same information listed above including your Skype username, and I will contact you via email to schedule an appointment. Here’s my email address again for phone/Skype coaching inquiries only: Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com.

If you feel I have added value to your life, you can show your appreciation by doing one of the following three things:

1) Make a donation to my work via the “PayPal Donate” button located on the “Wibiya” toolbar (right hand side) that runs along the bottom of every page of my website anytime you feel I have added significant value to your life. You tip your favorite bartender, right? How about a buck… $2… $3… $5… $10… what ever YOU feel its worth, every time you feel I have given you a good tip, new knowledge or helpful insight. Please feel free to donate any amount you think is equal to the value you received from my eBook & Home Study Course (audio lessons), articles, videos, emails, newsletters, etc.

2) Referring your friends and family to this website by clicking the Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Google +1, etc. social network sharing buttons located on the “Wibiya” tool bar at the bottom of this page, so they can start learning and improving their dating and relationship life, happiness, balance and overall success in every area of their lives too!

3) Purchase a book, CD’s, home study course or phone coaching session for yourself or a friend by “clicking here“. Download the Amazon.com Kindle version of my book to your Kindle, Smartphone, Mac or PC for only 99 cents by “clicking here“. That way, you’ll always have it with you to reference when you need it most. Thank you for reading this message!

From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

Ignoring the truth, does not make it go away.

It’s interesting the things men do in order to give themselves certainty that a woman they are dating likes them and wants to be in a relationship with them. Masculine energy is all about achieving, success, purpose, drive, mission in life, etc. So naturally when men who don’t understand women or how attraction works start dating a woman they like, they think a simple conversation or putting pressure on the girl will get her to commit to a relationship. It’s almost as if we guys tend to think women are like light switches. You go on a few dates and then simply flip the relationship switch and presto, you’re in a relationship now! Unfortunately for most men, 97% of them to be exact, they think they need to do something or create some kind of special moment that signals it’s relationship time. In many of my articles I talk about how a man’s impatience ruins a woman’s attraction for him. Today I have a cool perspective on that topic for you. I got an e-mail recently from a woman who has been on four dates with a man. She’s been out of the dating scene for a decade. He is becoming impatient with her. He’s trying to force things because he does not understand how attraction works. It’s causing her to feel uncomfortable, shut down to him emotionally and she’s unsure of what to do. She wants to have a relationship, but he’s made things very awkward for her. He thinks there is something wrong with her and that she is not ready for a relationship. The real problem is that he does not understand women or how attraction works. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of her e-mail:

Dear Corey,

Thanks for allowing me to write to you about a problem I am having. I recently met this man on an online dating site, and have been on 4 dates thus far. My problem is that I have not been talking much to this man, and he feels as though I am harboring some inhibitions. Which he explained that it’s making him uncomfortable to be around me. (Did you ever stop to think if it’s simply that you two don’t have a lot of chemistry together? If two people are really fascinated by one another, they usually want to know everything about the other person. Plus, they simply find ways to have a ball together. That is what effortless feels like. They are easy to be with. Like the chemistry you have with your closet friends.) It is not my intention to make him feel this way, but I have not been in a relationship for the past 10 years since my separation from my husband. (That is why you should take things slow; meet and go on dates with several different men. You have choices and also should look to meet someone who is easy and fun to be with. This guy is the only one you have gone out with. It doesn’t sound like sparks are flying here. Don’t you want that? You must be patient and ready for that to happen. It’s special and does not come along every day.) I have been having some issues of my own which I feel hinders me to open up as I do not want to share my struggles with him. (It’s really none of his business at this point. You’ve only been on 4 dates. Love is playful and fun, not serious. Focus on the positive and have fun on your dates.) When I say struggles, it means financially, as a single mom of a 18 year old. I own my home, but I’m having some difficulties that have been a bother to me before I met this guy. He has told me he likes me and wishes to take the relationship to the next level; and he wants me to be his woman. (He does not understand how attraction works between men and women.) I am not sure how to respond that. (See, your intuition is telling you that’s kind of inappropriate to say to someone you’ve only been on 4 dates with. Sex and taking it to the next level should naturally happen over time.) I know he’s getting impatient, (Men who don’t understand women get impatient, fearful and try to force things. I bet his impatience makes you feel uncomfortable? Guys who don’t understand women try to force the woman to commit to things prematurely in order to give themselves certainty that you really want them and want to be exclusive with them. These men are needy and don’t understand that women fall in love slowly over time. Women after all, are not light switches!) and I still do not know much about him, or him me. (He needs to slow down and take his time. Tell him you want a man who is willing to take things slow and be patient with you. Tell him if he thinks you are not moving fast enough for him, you will understand if he gets serious with another woman who wants to jump into a relationship.) He tells me that since I am harboring inhibitions, he doesn’t think I am ready for a relationship and that we can be good friends. (Tell him that you are not interested in just being friends. However, he needs to be patient and let you come to him at your own pace and what you feel comfortable with.) The truth, I want to be more than just good friends. (Tell him, but make sure he understands exactly what you mean by being patient with you. Give him specific step by step instructions of what you need to move forward and feel comfortable. Men think logically and are driven to make you happy; but we need step by step instructions our logical brains can understand. We won’t get your hints and innuendos. We’re just like dogs… “Sit, lay-down, roll-over, etc. If he feels successful at making you happy, then he will feel successful in the relationship and want you more.) I want a relationship, but I’m not sure why I am so tense and not sharing with this man. (Because he’s not making you feel safe and comfortable. He’s trying to force things because he does not understand how attraction works. He says “we can be good friends” because he thinks there is something wrong with you; he simply does not understand women. Honey, you are responding like any normal woman who has been out of the dating scene for a decade would. Take your time and be patient so you get a good man who understands women.) I am almost not sure what to say to him of me. (What does he ask you? Does he expect you to just start regurgitating your pedigree and life history? If he knows how to talk to women and he really likes you, he would be fascinated by you. He would ask the questions he wanted to know about you.) So far he knows what I do for a living, where I live, but I have never invited him to my place as of yet. With how it’s going, it might not even happen. I am confused and not sure what to do. I really like this guy and my nerves are getting the better of me. I feel like I am not communicating with him on a mature level, which is also causing him to draw some misconceptions about me. (The best thing to do is for you to communicate what you are looking for to him, how often you’d like him to call you and ask you out, etc. Make it easy for him so he treats you exactly the way you want to be treated. Give him a simple plan to follow that will guarantee that if he follows it, he will make you happy. Step by step. Clear instructions. NO HINTS OR INNUENDOS! If he really likes you enough, and he’s not too hard-headed, he’ll do it for you. If he gives you the friends only thing, tell him “no thanks, but give me a call if you change your mind. I want a relationship, but I want a man who will be patient with me.” Therefore, you will give him the best shot at giving you what you want. If he doesn’t? NEXT!!!! Find someone better. Use the tips I give in this article to help you attract the ideal mate and better candidates. Also see my article on online dating profiles to help you fine tune your online dating profile so it attracts exactly the type of men you are looking for. I wrote it for guys, but the same principles work for women too.)

My question – do I tell this guy my problems? My financial problem is not that I cannot afford to pay my mortgage. It’s just a little issue in getting my basement apartment repaired and rented to help with my other expenses which is putting a strain on my emotions. I am such an independent woman and feel funny about the whole situation. (Keep it to yourself until this guy proves himself worthy to you. So far, I’m not convinced he’s got what it takes. But if you give him the instructions like I talk about above and he follows them, then, he may have a chance. Then down the road, and if you think it’s important for him to know, you can reveal it to him WHEN YOU ARE READY. You should also read my book. It will give you the upper hand in your relationship to make up for his lack of relationship skills so you can guide him to treat you properly. It will give you a lot more tools you can use to get him to treat you the way you want, as well as the best communication techniques on the planet! It will help you tremendously! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE. You don’t need a Kindle. Amazon has a free Kindle e-reader app that enables you to read the book on practically any electronic device worldwide!)

Your advice is greatly appreciated.

Sandra

If you have any questions or comments you can post them directly below in the facebook comments system which appears after the end of this article. If you have a question you would like me to answer via email, you can send it to this email address: Questions@UnderstandingRelationships.com

If you would like to inquire about how I can help coach you to be at your best personally, exceed your wildest expectations of what you are capable of and to see if you are a good fit for my phone coaching program, send me an email and include your name, contact number, best times and days to contact you, and the time zone/country you are in. Here’s my email address to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation with me personally (phone coaching inquiries only): Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com. If I think you and I are a good fit and I accept you into my phone coaching program, we will schedule further sessions at that time based upon your most important goals and outcomes.

If you would like to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation via Skype, please send me an email with the same information listed above including your Skype username, and I will contact you via email to schedule an appointment. Here’s my email address again for phone/Skype coaching inquiries only: Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com.

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1) Make a donation to my work via the “PayPal Donate” button located on the “Wibiya” toolbar (right hand side) that runs along the bottom of every page of my website anytime you feel I have added significant value to your life. You tip your favorite bartender, right? How about a buck… $2… $3… $5… $10… what ever YOU feel its worth, every time you feel I have given you a good tip, new knowledge or helpful insight. Please feel free to donate any amount you think is equal to the value you received from my eBook & Home Study Course (audio lessons), articles, videos, emails, newsletters, etc.

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3) Purchase a book, CD’s, home study course or phone coaching session for yourself or a friend by “clicking here“. Download the Amazon.com Kindle version of my book to your Kindle, Smartphone, Mac or PC for only 99 cents by “clicking here“. That way, you’ll always have it with you to reference when you need it most. Thank you for reading this message!

From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“When you trust in yourself, you’re trusting in the same wisdom that created you.” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer

Here’s some things you should consider before deciding to get an ex back who is lazy when you are an active person. Do I believe that opposites really attract? Personally, I think it’s a bunch of crap! An urban legend or an old wives tale, take your pick. Just because two people are sexually attracted to one another and have a lot of fun together, does not mean that they are a good match for a long-term relationship. Successful long-term relationships are relationships where both people have similar goals and values. One of my former girlfriends is still to me, one of the most beautiful and sexiest women on the planet! However, she always used to tell me how she was a simple girl. She had a lazy streak and constantly made promises of things she was going to do, but never got around to. Her whole family was that way. They all had big dreams, but no guts to follow them. They were all talk and no action. I always had fun with her and her family. I still love all of them dearly. However, I am a high achiever. I always eventually accomplish and do the things I say I am going to. People who are all talk and no action drive me nuts! I have a lot of people like that in my own family. Unfortunately for my ex-girlfriend, as much as I loved and wanted her, she was never going to be a woman who encouraged and complemented me as an equal teammate. I always felt like I had to drag her along and drag her up to my level. The longer we were together, the more it bothered me. Eventually it was one of the main reasons why I never got back together with her after we broke up. She was always going to be this way. It’s hard for me to respect someone who constantly runs their mouth, but never follows through on their plans or what they promise. That is a mother fucker to find yourself in that kind of situation. I was totally in love with her, and she with me, but it was never going to be the kind of relationship, partnership and union that deep down I really wanted and knew I deserved. That is why it is always best to notice red flags of bad habits and character flaws early, and before you fall in love. That way, you can get out before either of the two of you gets too emotionally invested.

The following is an e-mail from a reader. He recently broke up with his girlfriend for similar reasons. He is a very active person, and she is more lazy and complacent. He has noticed this has caused him to lose attraction for her. He wants to rekindle things, but also is struggling with the fact she is lazy. This has caused him to no longer put his best foot forward at some point in his relationship before it ended. He probably has a good chance of getting her back if he cleans up the communication mistakes he is making. However, he will still be left with the fact that his ex-girlfriend is lazy when he is a very active person. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hey there Corey,

I was dating my girlfriend for almost a year. We broke up almost a month ago. We were fighting a lot (Men who understand women do not fight or argue with them.) and one of the biggest reasons we stopped is, because I wouldn’t take the next step with her. She wanted for us to get a place together, but unfortunately, I’m financially not ready yet. (When you’re not ready, you’re not ready. The more a woman cares for you, the more she will want of your time. Eventually this leads to living under one roof so she has you all to herself. However, it is the right decision to turn it down when you feel you are not ready for it. Why? Your FEELINGS are your TRUTH.) I made a big mistake by not saving, and I believe I lost her trust. (Any woman would doubt your “provider” status if you are poor with money. Women want to feel safe and comfortable. In a relationship where the woman lets go so the man can take control and pay the bills, run the household, etc., she expects and deserves a man who takes care of business financially. If he does not, it causes her to doubt his masculine core which ruins her ability to feel safe and comfortable and trust he will do as he says. Women often will become bitchy when this happens. Women want, and deserve you at your best.) I hate that I hurt her, but I was losing attraction for her because of her simple complacent lifestyle. (You must become what you want to attract. If she is lazy and you are active, guess what? She’s not going to become an active person like you. Either accept and love her lazy ass the way she is, or grow the necessary set of balls it takes, and go find a woman who has similar goals and values. You can’t force, cajole or manipulate your ex into being the type of woman you really want and need. People don’t change, they only become better versions of themselves…IF they are willing to help themselves. Most people aren’t. Current events form future trends. Your ex was already this way before you met her.) I’m a very active person and she’s not. (You should find a woman who is active like you and who has similar goals and values in life. You will always suffer when you try to change her or fail to accept that she is the way she is and she’s not going to change.) I’m not saying that we have to have the same traits, but there were times I just couldn’t relate with her. (You can’t force chemistry or force yourself to find someone fun and interesting when they are not.) I tried this past Valentines Day weekend to see her, but she kept getting angry at me and telling me that I wasn’t putting in enough effort. (She is hurt and gets mad because you do not understand how or why you have hurt her. Read my article, how to open your woman emotionally.) I got her cards, wrote a poem, got her gifts, etc. (You buying things comes off as a bribe to placate her. You must acknowledge the pain you have caused her thru proper communication and convince her you understand how you hurt her, why you are sorry and how you plan to make things different going forward. The longer you don’t acknowledge how you have hurt her, the angrier she will become.) I’m extremely confused, and don’t know what to do with her. (Good! Being confused means you are about to learn something. You need to read my book again. Especially the communication and relationship techniques towards the back of the book. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) I told her we need time to ourselves. I know I’ve lost a huge physical attraction towards her, and I know she has with me, but what can I do to try to rekindle what we once had? (Keep it simple. Next time she calls you, ask her out for dinner. Treat it just like your first date all over again. Create a romantic fun-filled opportunity for sex to happen. However, you must be prepared to communicate with her. Read the articles and sections in my book I refer to. Never argue! Shut up and listen to her and what she has to say without trying to justify your behavior or actions. Don’t talk about getting back together, relationships, commitment, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc. Just focus on having a good time, making sure she does 70% to 80% of the talking by asking her questions and making her laugh. I would also recommend you book a phone coaching session with me ASAP by CLICKING HERE. )

Tom

If you have any questions or comments you can post them directly below in the facebook comments system which appears after the end of this article. If you have a question you would like me to answer via email, you can send it to this email address: Questions@UnderstandingRelationships.com

If you would like to inquire about how I can help coach you to be at your best personally, exceed your wildest expectations of what you are capable of and to see if you are a good fit for my phone coaching program, send me an email and include your name, contact number, best times and days to contact you, and the time zone/country you are in. Here’s my email address to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation with me personally (phone coaching inquiries only): Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com. If I think you and I are a good fit and I accept you into my phone coaching program, we will schedule further sessions at that time based upon your most important goals and outcomes.

If you would like to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation via Skype, please send me an email with the same information listed above including your Skype username, and I will contact you via email to schedule an appointment. Here’s my email address again for phone/Skype coaching inquiries only: Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com.

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From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“Those who lack the courage will always find a philosophy to justify it.” ~ Albert Camus

Here’s how to get lots of phone numbers, go on dates & hook up with women more beautiful than you ever thought possible! To go from being unsuccessful with women, to being able to walk up to women anytime, anyplace and anywhere, strike up a conversation and either set a date in the future, or continue hanging out with her until it leads to sex in your bedroom several hours later… is a process. It’s different for every guy. Some guys just need a little bit of help and tweaking, and then they are good to go. Other guys like me, spend a lot of time overcoming negative programming, limiting beliefs and simply overcoming their fear of talking to the opposite sex. It starts with the realization and honesty that the reason the results you seek are elusive, is because your approach is bad and it needs refinement. Guys who are already successful, have an easier time applying what I teach and succeeding with women. Guys who hate their jobs or careers, also have to work on getting a better job in addition to improving their success with women. Why? We spend most of our time working in our careers. If we hate what we are doing for a living, it will be infinitely more difficult to work at improving our success with women. Why? If your job or career has already made you miserable, you have a lot less reasons to get super excited on a daily basis. Guys who love what they do for a living and are succeeding in doing it, already have an abundance of happiness. Changing their approaches with women simply involves learning what they did not know or understand about women, and applying it in their lives. That is why I focus so much on finding or creating a career or business that is emotionally compelling and exciting for you. The more successful you feel as a man, the easier it will be for you to do the right things with women.

The following is an e-mail from a phone coaching client of mine. I’ve been working with him for about a year now. We usually talk once a month. He has been relentlessly applying what I teach over the past year. At this point, he’s talked to hundreds of women. He’s asked out dozens and dozens of women. He’s also gone out on dozens and dozens of dates. Plus, he’s been getting laid pretty steadily now for some time. He’s dating lots of women and having fun. He’s constantly having breakthroughs and waking up to the fact that every day he gets closer and closer to realizing his FULL potential as a man. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Coach Corey,

How goes it my brother? I hope all is well on your end. Well things are going great for me since our last coaching session and the advice that you gave me. I must admit things have been looking up. I remember that quote that you said “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” (I originally heard that from Dr. Wayne Dyer. He is brilliant!) So true, that quote is money! I’ve had some recent developments in my life that are for the better I think. I’ll tell you all about it during our next coaching session.

Well on to other news in the women department. I’ve been out there just doing my thing, getting numbers, going on dates and hooking up. (That’s because you’ve got several ways to meet more women, you know the three best ways to seduce women, you know the best pickup lines & you’ve got the best comebacks ready for anything women can throw at you. You are prepared and squared-away-Ajay. You are still a good soldier. You’re getting it done as usual. Patience, persistence and perseverance pays off eventually. Repetition is the mother of skill. You do the work, this gives you experience and your experience builds your confidence as a man. I am sorry if I am not surprised at your success. The effort you make is your guarantor of your success. So your success is… as I have always said…simply a matter of… time.) It’s freaking awesome because I am able to distinguish now, well, at-least I think I can, the levels of low vs high interest. I know I’m still making mistakes, but overall I think they are minor. When we talk you can give me your opinion since you always give me an objective look on things, as opposed to what I want to hear… LOL. Dude Corey, I sometimes stop and think of where I am now. (I’m proud of you! You apply what you learn, and therefore, you get expected/predictable results.) Especially since you’ve been working with me and where I was then. I can definitely see changes that have taken place all for the better. I am definitely more confident, more aware and overall just better at understanding women and making decisions. Not only with women, but in other aspects in my life as well. (I told you that would happen. I also stated that in my book. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) I’ll tell you of some breakthroughs that I’ve experienced lately. Thanks again for the guidance my brother. I better be closing for now. I just wanted to drop in and give you an update on how I’ve been. BTW, fucking awesome newsletter my man, thanks again for the nuggets of knowledge! (Thanks! I try to pack each one with as much good info and links to my other related articles as possible. It’s all about adding value to people’s lives. More than anyone else. Even when we’re not talking, I’m still helping you thru my newsletters and videos. Total immersion.)

Thanks again brother. Have a great week

Tom

If you have any questions or comments you can post them directly below in the facebook comments system which appears after the end of this article. If you have a question you would like me to answer via email, you can send it to this email address: Questions@UnderstandingRelationships.com

If you would like to inquire about how I can help coach you to be at your best personally, exceed your wildest expectations of what you are capable of and to see if you are a good fit for my phone coaching program, send me an email and include your name, contact number, best times and days to contact you, and the time zone/country you are in. Here’s my email address to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation with me personally (phone coaching inquiries only): Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com. If I think you and I are a good fit and I accept you into my phone coaching program, we will schedule further sessions at that time based upon your most important goals and outcomes.

If you would like to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation via Skype, please send me an email with the same information listed above including your Skype username, and I will contact you via email to schedule an appointment. Here’s my email address again for phone/Skype coaching inquiries only: Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com.

If you feel I have added value to your life, you can show your appreciation by doing one of the following three things:

1) Make a donation to my work via the “PayPal Donate” button located on the “Wibiya” toolbar (right hand side) that runs along the bottom of every page of my website anytime you feel I have added significant value to your life. You tip your favorite bartender, right? How about a buck… $2… $3… $5… $10… what ever YOU feel its worth, every time you feel I have given you a good tip, new knowledge or helpful insight. Please feel free to donate any amount you think is equal to the value you received from my eBook & Home Study Course (audio lessons), articles, videos, emails, newsletters, etc.

2) Referring your friends and family to this website by clicking the Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Google +1, etc. social network sharing buttons located on the “Wibiya” tool bar at the bottom of this page, so they can start learning and improving their dating and relationship life, happiness, balance and overall success in every area of their lives too!

3) Purchase a book, CD’s, home study course or phone coaching session for yourself or a friend by “clicking here“. Download the Amazon.com Kindle version of my book to your Kindle, Smartphone, Mac or PC for only 99 cents by “clicking here“. That way, you’ll always have it with you to reference when you need it most. Thank you for reading this message!

From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“What you seek, you already are.” ~ Deepak Chopra

Here’s how to overcome the shortcomings of your father & what he failed to teach you about women, masculinity & success! When we are children, we take on all of the fears, limiting beliefs and the shortcomings of our parents, family and our peer group. We learn and become conditioned to think and act in a certain way around other human beings. It does not matter if what we are being taught is totally dysfunctional and inappropriate. When we are little children, we don’t know what we don’t know. It’s not until we become adults and start encountering challenges and situations that confuse us, that we realize a lot of what we were taught or learned in childhood, was inaccurate and inappropriate. Most people just give up and give in to living a life of mediocrity, instead of trying to learn from their mistakes and improve their situation in life. The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the expectations of your peer group. If your friends and family have no goals or ambitions, there is a good chance you don’t either. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He grew up without a father figure and he now wonders if that has contributed to his struggles and challenges with women, and what he needs to do to turn things around. He has gotten to a place where he is so dissatisfied with the way things are in his life, that he is now determined to take massive action to make a change for the better. He’s over it! My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hey Corey,

A couple months ago I had e-mailed you about me having “No Luck” and since reading your book and finishing it for the first time, my eyes have seriously been opened! (It has that effect on people.) I am currently reading your book for the second time around. I’m just beginning to realize what my blunders were with my ex as well as hers. I am also starting to remember and realize all the red flags that were right in front of me, but was too inexperienced and blind as a bat to realize them. (Now you can objectively look back and learn from your mistakes.) I am still working to learn what happened, but also it’s starting to give me an idea what I need to improve on. Also, your news letter e-mails are very helpful and I always look forward to them.

Now when I was reading your book during round 1, you were talking about the Masculine and Feminine Masks people wear over their true masculine/feminine cores. You stated that these masks are developed based on how a person was raised. Does this apply especially to those who grew up with with a single parent? (Parents pass on their fears, limiting beliefs, flaws, etc. to their children. Most of us spend the rest of our lives overcoming the limiting beliefs and false mental constructs we adopted in childhood.) The reason why I’m asking is that I was raised by a single mother and never had that true father figure around during that part of my life. (Most men and women do not understand the nature and difference between masculine and feminine energy. I think it’s a safe assumption to say that you learned more how to act like a woman in certain situations than you did as a man simply because there was no one else to teach you how to act like a man. Even if you had a father figure, there is a 97% chance he would have been clueless when it comes to understanding women and what they really want anyways. I know my Dad was. He was physically present in our house growing up, but emotionally and mentally he was somewhere else. He and I were laughing about this the other night. How my mother used to bitch and complain while he watched TV and drank beer. Every once in a while he would look over at her as if he was listening, but he was tuning her out. He just kept sucking down the beers and ignored the rest of us as if we weren’t really there. He worked a lot when we were young and was never around very much. When he was, he was in his own little world. He was more of a roommate than a father.) I know she did the absolute best she could, (We’re all just trying to do the best we can with where we’re at in life. Most people major in minor things in life, but that does not mean that you have to be like them.) and I love her and I am forever grateful. But reading your book feels as though I’m finally learning what I think I may have missed out on not having that father figure around. Especially with how to build and have that confidence to interact with women, build that attraction, and have successful relationships with them. (Does not matter really. Most men are clueless, they would have taught you improper and inappropriate ways to behave and act with women anyways.)

I guess I just learned about relationships from my mothers side and not from both sides. I just assumed the ideas I had were how’s things are… i.e. friends tell me the man should pursue and approach the women, (Only take dating advice from people who know how to have good relationships. Most guys just sit back and take what ever they can get with women, which is usually… nothing.) not the other way around like my ex did. Also, I have a tendency to be more open with my feelings unlike some of my buddies. I wonder if this is a turn off to women? I wonder if it was a turn off with my ex? Does this make me look weak, not centered and not in my masculine core? (It all depends on how you phrase things. I always put a positive spin on everything that happens in my life. I look at the bright side in everything. Every situation in life, good or bad, has a lesson for you. I am an optimist. The best rule of thumb? If it’s not going to raise her level of interest in you by telling her about your baggage, then you should keep it to yourself. Love is playful and fun, not serious.)

I feel that communication is key to ANY relationship whether it be work, friendship, or romantically. (True that!!!!!!) I did try to communicate with my ex on several occasions, but she’d always change the subject. Especially when it was serious stuff or about ‘us’. (It brought up negative emotions and unpleasant feelings. Therefore, she avoids it. Women are driven by their emotions, not by logic.) But I realized I could’ve been more playful when it came to those subjects as you were advising in your book. Also, I did see that movie Cinderella Man you mentioned in your book, great movie! I can see what you mean by Jim’s wife Mae testing him even though they were already married with kids. All this crap was happening to them and she basically was trying to make sure that he was strong enough to pull his family through all this shit. But I can tell the woman did have integrity to begin with.

I had also seen a movie called Not Easily Broken, I find this movie another good example to what you’re discussing in your book about interest level, and women testing and pulling away and more. But it also shows that even if a man is being strong and centered and there for her, the woman needs to do her part as well. Some women are just as clueless as men are regarding how to maintain a healthy relationship. (Yep, see my article… “Do women understand… women?”) I also like how it shows external factors testing the integrity of the relationship itself. If you check this movie out, let me know what you think? (Will do.)

Also, my last question is how does one reinvent oneself? (It’s not about reinventing yourself. It’s about learning to be who you really are. To finally stop giving a flying fuck what others think about you. Why? It’s irrelevant.) I am noticing that the current self image I have been projecting for so long, is not what I like to be perceived as… i.e. low confidence, low self esteem, indecisive at times, second guessing myself, and apprehensiveness. (If you can’t immediately change your circumstances, then all you can do is change the disempowering meaning you are giving to the circumstances and events of your life. Simply change the meaning you give things. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at… change.) I feel like no one takes me seriously. (Here’s how to project strength and confidence to attract women.) I also think my ex got the wrong idea about me and that I had no backbone. I am annoyed by myself and just sick of how I am and that my life just hasn’t turned out the way I wanted it to be… i.e.. fun, exciting, interesting, self assured, successful with women. (You must follow your heart, curiosity and intuition in life if you want to be happy, fulfilled and successful.) I am 28 and feel as though I wasted so much time and youth drifting through life with no sense of direction. I want to finally “get it” and be successful damn it! “Enough is enough and it’s time for a change!” – WWE quote. (You should book a phone coaching session with me to help jump start your success by CLICKING HERE. Learn how to become fearless. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.).

I apologize for such a long email but I had these questions and thoughts that I thought I’d share and see what your thoughts are?

Keep up the awesome work man!

Thanks,

Joe

If you have any questions or comments you can post them directly below in the facebook comments system which appears after the end of this article. If you have a question you would like me to answer via email, you can send it to this email address: Questions@UnderstandingRelationships.com

If you would like to inquire about how I can help coach you to be at your best personally, exceed your wildest expectations of what you are capable of and to see if you are a good fit for my phone coaching program, send me an email and include your name, contact number, best times and days to contact you, and the time zone/country you are in. Here’s my email address to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation with me personally (phone coaching inquiries only): Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com. If I think you and I are a good fit and I accept you into my phone coaching program, we will schedule further sessions at that time based upon your most important goals and outcomes.

If you would like to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation via Skype, please send me an email with the same information listed above including your Skype username, and I will contact you via email to schedule an appointment. Here’s my email address again for phone/Skype coaching inquiries only: Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com.

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1) Make a donation to my work via the “PayPal Donate” button located on the “Wibiya” toolbar (right hand side) that runs along the bottom of every page of my website anytime you feel I have added significant value to your life. You tip your favorite bartender, right? How about a buck… $2… $3… $5… $10… what ever YOU feel its worth, every time you feel I have given you a good tip, new knowledge or helpful insight. Please feel free to donate any amount you think is equal to the value you received from my eBook & Home Study Course (audio lessons), articles, videos, emails, newsletters, etc.

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From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“If you’re bored with life, if you don’t get up every morning with a burning desire to do things – you don’t have enough goals.” ~ Lou Holtz

Here’s how to keep women you are dating and sleeping with, sexually attracted and chasing you! When you start dating a woman who likes you and she starts calling and pursuing you, that’s the best position to be in. Why? If she is chasing you, she can’t be getting rid of you! However, there is a difficult balance that must be maintained in order to keep her sexually attracted and interested. You must let women come to you at their own pace. When you first start dating a woman, it’s always best to schedule and go on one date per week. As the weeks go by and you stick to initiating contact and setting up only one date per week, and provided you do more things right than wrong to create attraction, the woman will start to call/text/email/initiate contact first. This is the indication that she feels safe and comfortable with you. It is also an indication that she wants to see you more than the once a week dates she has been having with you. As her interest level goes up, she will start doing things to try to get the two of you together more often. This is a beautiful principle to follow. You will stick to once a week on your own. The only time she will see you more, is when she contacts you and either you make a date on the spot, or she asks you out on a date. If she backs off when you spent almost every day the week before together, you must let her go. Sometimes she will be busy, and sometimes she simply won’t feel like seeing you as much. This is where most guys run into trouble. When she gets a little bored and backs off, they usually start to chase and pursue her more. As the weeks go by, they pursue more, and she pursues less. Eventually she is too busy to see them at all.

The following is an e-mail from a reader who has been having an office romance with a woman who lives with her boyfriend. This is the second e-mail he has written me. He has done a much better job of allowing her to come to him at her own pace, but his neediness is still forcing him to pursue when he should be hanging back. Therefore, things got real hot and heavy again, but he tried to force things and now things are up in the air. On top of that, her boyfriend knows she has been cheating on him and has given her the freedom to be happy. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey,

Are all women created equal, emotionally?

I sent you an email about a month ago, which was the basis for your video called “the pitfalls of office romances.” Since then, I’ve read your book 6 more times, and it keeps getting more informative each time. You weren’t kidding, although I had my doubts… (I might not always be right… but I’m never wrong.) Here’s the interesting follow up… a LOT of things have happened since. It’s super long, so grab a bucket of pop corn! Anyway, since my last message, I “sort of” gave her some space. (Smart!) After three days of no contact, she called me for some “help” on a particular task she was working on, because she knew I was good on that subject. (See how well backing off and letting women come to you works?) A week went by with very little contact. A few texts back and forth on two days, at the most.

The following Thursday, a week after our talk on the phone about work, I asked her out for drinks and things went well… she seemed finally relieved the project she was working on was over. (She was probably relieved you had given her some space instead of acting like a needy little boy. This caused her attraction for you to grow again. Women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.) We spent four “fun filled hours” together. It was cool and just like before. No drama. (Girls just want to have fun. Create simple fun filled romantic opportunities for sex to happen… a.k.a. “Dates” then… rinse, recycle, repeat.)

If you recall, I usually spent time with her during the week, not on the weekends because it was easier for her to find “excuses” for coming home late… working late, drinks with coworkers etc. So I was surprised when I got a text from her on Saturday, asking to meet me in a very romantic spot in Paris around 5pm. So I did go there and we had an incredible time. She seemed so stress free. We had some drinks until about 9pm, and then went back to my place for a nice conclusion to the evening… she did leave around 1am to go back home, saying she’d told her boyfriend she was attending a friend’s party… that’s pretty fucked up for the boyfriend, honestly. (Yep, which is why she would not make good girlfriend material. Open relationship material, but not a monogamous relationship. She is a liar and is untrustworthy. Don’t be a fool and think she doesn’t lie, or won’t lie to you also.)

The very next day, I get a text from her saying she was close to my apartment with friends, asking me if we could meet. (Do you see this pattern here? As her interest level goes up and you don’t chase after her, she chases you more.) Apparently she was at an Arts exhibition with friends and her boyfriend. She had told them she was going back home because she wasn’t feeling well. So… instead she met me. She spent about 2 hours over coffee before she went back home. The following week was more of the same. We both initiated, a bit more me, (Mistake! You should always let women do 70% to 80% of the pursuing. Now as you chase more, she will start to chase less.) I’d guess, and spent every single evening together. From Monday to Friday. Not all of them at my place though…

On Friday, I could tell before leaving she wasn’t feeling alright. She seemed concerned and she told me she was starting to feel guilty, because her boyfriend was getting “really” suspicious now. She said it was time for her to make a decision now. She was visiting her parents that weekend, usually with her boyfriend, so it got me worried. So I sent a text on Sunday, Midnight…mistake, I know, telling her to relax and follow her instincts. (She is in a relationship with another dude. You should always let her come to you. Your fear is causing you to fall under the “illusion of action” and do things thinking that doing something will cause her to want you more. The exact opposite actually happens when you chase impatiently.)

I woke up on Monday with a message from her saying she went to bed early, and that she’d spent the weekend alone with her parents, “hibernating”, her own words, without the boyfriend. That threw me for a loop… I knew she was not feeling great, but not like this. Anyway, feeling worried, fear makes you do dumb things, I asked to see her on Monday and she said she couldn’t. (Yep, now you are chasing her and trying to force her to see you before she is ready. Instead of letting it be her idea to see you, you’re trying to rush things. How can you build anticipation and sexual tension by releasing it prematurely by pursuing her? Nuts! This is how you lost her the first time. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. That will get you rejected and cause her to feel uncomfortable. She will withdraw and want to see you less again.) All I wanted was a quick chat with her, just to see “what’s up.” (Bullshit. You were worried about where you stood, so you reached out to her in order to gain some certainty. that is weak and reeks of seeking and needing her approval. This will cause her to lose attraction for you right here by your bad behavior. You should be backing off. Instead you are chasing harder.) She told me OK for Tuesday evening. I had a feeling she’d cancel that one… Low and behold, I was getting ready to leave to meet her when she texted me: “I completely forgot, I had something planned tonight, let’s make it tomorrow at lunch.” That really pissed me off, but I just texted back “time waster! Ok, for tomorrow, but don’t cancel that one…” (Now you are keeping your schedule wide open for her. You are putting your life on hold until you hear from her. Weak behavior. Women cancel because of low interest when you lower it by your bad actions, or because they don’t feel comfortable.)

While leaving to go to the subway, I bumped into her while she was leaving too… I know what you’re thinking Corey, no I was not stalking her! I could tell she didn’t want to see me, she seemed nervous and clearly wanted no drama. So I told her point blank: “Do you want us to keep seeing each other? (Weak! Alpha males never ask such silly absurd questions. They have the attitude that they are a catch. It would be absurd to even consider getting dumped by women who like them.) Because it seems you’ve been avoiding me for the last couple days… a little communication would go a long way.” (Now you are complicating things by trying to force her to choose you. Stop it! Women do the choosing! Stop acting like the woman. Your attitude should be, “She wants me. It’s in the bag.”) She then said: “Right now, I don’t know… no probably.” Then quickly said, “I don’t know, my mind’s all fucked up, let’s go over this tomorrow during lunch ok?” (Translation: “Stop trying to force things. If you try to force me to chose or resolve things before I DECIDE I AM READY, I will have to reject you and end things. I don’t want to end things with you, but if you force me to choose, then you’re out.”) I said I didn’t understand why she’d come down from the past week’s “high” so quickly. (You chasing her destroyed the sexual tension that was building until you released it all by your needy behavior. You ruined her high.) Something had happened and all I wanted was for her to be honest with me. (Ok… honestly? You fucked it up by chasing her and trying to assume the woman’s role once again. Now you get rejected just like before. Just create the next fun filled opportunity for sex to happen. That’s it! Stop complicating things.) The next day, Wednesday, four days ago, we met during the lunch hour. It went very well. She told me she was fucked up inside… and she apologized for being so unlike herself the previous night. I told her that all I wanted was for her to communicate honestly, that is all. (That’s a fair statement. However, your need for communication was simply you acting needy by seeking reassurance she still wanted you. That kind of thinking will lead to rejection.)

Then the shocker: She told me the reason why she seemed distant was because her boyfriend had finally confronted her. (She had that drama at home. You could have been a drama free source of fun sexcapades for her, but instead, you became an unwanted additional source of drama and complication in her life. Girls just want to have fun. Focus on having fun.) He apparently didn’t ask her if she was indeed seeing someone else. Instead he assumed, correctly, that she was, saying “I know you’re seeing someone, I’m not stupid. Do whatever you like, whatever makes you happy.” I told her I thought it was strange for him to be this “composed” about the situation. (He’s not bullshitting himself. He has the right attitude that will actually cause her to choose him instead of you… if… he hangs back, while you try to force things, she will dump you and stick with him.) She then told me exactly this: “I could never find the strength to break it off as of now, he has to do it first. (Translation: “I’m not leaving him for you. I can sleep with you and still keep him around. I can have my cake and eat it too. I like this. There’s no drama for me to deal with. I don’t have to complicate my life.”) I don’t want to be the one to hurt him.” Well, you certainly have given him all the ammunition to do it now… AND you have hurt him already.

I responded that I wanted her to be happy too, (Smart.) she rolled her eyes, but that we are not friends. She asked me: “So you mean that, if it doesn’t work out and I come back to you in a little while, you won’t want me?” I told her: “First I’d have to be available, and if I would be, I don’t think I’d want to be with someone who let go of me… but you never know.” (Well said bro! I like how you stood up for what you wanted, but left it in her lap, where it belongs.) She seemed worried that I told her that. Clearly she doesn’t want to lose the possibility of “us,” whatever happens. But to me, that’s pure selfishness. (You’re the genius who decided to have the affair with a woman who lives with her boyfriend.)

Anyway, the lunch went very well otherwise, with lots of deep eye contact, flirting teasing etc. (That’s how it should ALWAYS be. Love is playful and fun, not serious.) At the end of the lunch, she asked me about a girl I was working with who is super hot. I told her jokingly I was meeting her tonight… she didn’t immediately pick up on the joke, as I remained stern faced. (Dead pan delivery is the way to do it… Good job!) She said, “really, well now I’m not sure I’ll break it off with my boyfriend if you have someone else lined up.” (You should ask that other hottie out! Don’t wait for this chick to make up her mind. You have choices as a man… options… she ain’t the only girl in town you could have.) Seeing my smile, she realized I was joking and she laughed it off. As we left the restaurant, we went back to her street and found a quiet spot to make out. Too bad we didn’t have more time because it was quickly heating up… as always. We have talked since a couple times, but have not seen each other since last Wednesday. On Friday, we talked a bit and I told her it was too arrogant to ask her out Tuesday night, (I would have never said that.) so I said: let’s make it Monday night. She said “ok for Monday, see you then and have a great weekend!” Remember, Tuesday is valentines day. I don’t want no part of that drama! She also told me she is spending this weekend at her parents again… she clearly wants some time for herself right now. So I’m letting her “breathe” a bit. (BINGO!!! Just show up for your date on time, as I assume you set a definite date right?)

Anyway, I could write a book with that stuff… once again it’s super long. I have never met a woman so fragile emotionally. (Actually, she responds like any woman would respond who was in a similar situation. She sounds emotionally normal, just dishonest. Your labeling her as emotionally fragile is your way of making excuses for the fact you have once again been lowering her interest level by acting needy and pursuing too much.) I think she became distant this week because of the fact her boyfriend knew about us… (That is your fault dude. You are struggling to maintain self-control.) previously he has had no clue. Even though we have bonded even more lately, and even more than our last discussion, what is the best course of action? Let her be and forget about her? (Simply let her come to you. You got a date already set up. Focus on having fun and hooking up afterwards. No drama. No serious subjects or me vs him talk. Then do nothing. Let her text/contact you next. When she does, just set up the next fun filled romantic opportunity for sex to happen. Rinse, recycle, repeat. That’s it. Don’t complicate things!) That brings me to my initial question: Are all women created equal, emotionally? I’ve never met a woman that is so nervous to take any decision or to take a side. (She will make the decision that is best for her as long as you and her boyfriend give her the space to do it. Have fun with her, but date other women. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Khaled

If you have any questions or comments you can post them directly below in the facebook comments system which appears after the end of this article. If you have a question you would like me to answer via email, you can send it to this email address: Questions@UnderstandingRelationships.com

If you would like to inquire about how I can help coach you to be at your best personally, exceed your wildest expectations of what you are capable of and to see if you are a good fit for my phone coaching program, send me an email and include your name, contact number, best times and days to contact you, and the time zone/country you are in. Here’s my email address to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation with me personally (phone coaching inquiries only): Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com. If I think you and I are a good fit and I accept you into my phone coaching program, we will schedule further sessions at that time based upon your most important goals and outcomes.

If you would like to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation via Skype, please send me an email with the same information listed above including your Skype username, and I will contact you via email to schedule an appointment. Here’s my email address again for phone/Skype coaching inquiries only: Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com.

If you feel I have added value to your life, you can show your appreciation by doing one of the following three things:

1) Make a donation to my work via the “PayPal Donate” button located on the “Wibiya” toolbar (right hand side) that runs along the bottom of every page of my website anytime you feel I have added significant value to your life. You tip your favorite bartender, right? How about a buck… $2… $3… $5… $10… what ever YOU feel its worth, every time you feel I have given you a good tip, new knowledge or helpful insight. Please feel free to donate any amount you think is equal to the value you received from my eBook & Home Study Course (audio lessons), articles, videos, emails, newsletters, etc.

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From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“Patience is power; with time & patience the mulberry leaf becomes a silk gown.” ~ Chinese Proverbs

Fear of loss destroys attraction and is probably the single biggest mistake needy people make that leads to the end of their relationships, or ruins their chances with someone they just met. At the root cause of this behavior is an insecure feeling that what you want to happen, probably will not happen. You want to be loved, but deep down you are afraid that you will not be loved. I remember being paralyzed by my fear of rejection. I remember thinking that I had to call women I liked excessively to talk to them in order to get them to like me more when I was younger. These unnecessary phone calls were simply masking my own needy and insecure feelings, but communicating to the women I was interested in, that I did not feel I deserved them. As a matter-of-fact, my actions actually communicated that I expected to get rejected. I had an irrational fear that had convinced me that I did not deserve what I really wanted. It’s like expecting to get rejected, but thinking you have to do something in order to prevent rejection. However, it’s this illusion of action that causes us to make unnecessary mistakes. The following is an e-mail from a Middle Eastern woman who has written me before. Obviously her culture and society is not open to or compatible with much of the things and freedoms we take for granted in the West, and that I talk about here. She desires to get married and has become fixated and obsessed with one particular man. Her needy behavior is causing him to want nothing to do with her. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of her e-mail:

Hi Corey:

I hope you are doing well. I’m sure you’ve forgotten me because you are a famous person, (Don’t put me on a pedestal.) and every one needs to ask you for advise. Yes, you are severe little bit, (I use adult language and talk about adult subjects. I never bullshit anyone. Brutal honesty is best when helping people who are bullshitting and lying to themselves. It’s only once they recognize their own bullshit, that they can let go of, and move past it.) but I confess that you give 65% good advise for the people who are like me, (I teach what works. True human nature. Your culture is still coming out of the dark ages so to speak. Women are oppressed and not treated with respect in much of the Muslim world. Women in the west went thru a similar transition over the past 100 years. Women got tired of taking shit from men, and stood up for themselves in droves until the men caved. The same thing is happening all over the middle east now. Women in Saudi Arabia are defying authorities and dark age draconian laws, and driving their cars in public even though women are not allowed to drive. Now the kingdom is starting to cave. Women are not second class citizens in the west. They are self sufficient and don’t need a man for shit. If he’s a lousy father or provider, she’ll get a job and raise the child on her own. In America, our founding fathers founded our nation with the belief and upon the principles that our personal freedom comes from the creator. Not the state, and not man. The US is the freest nation on earth. You can do and be anything as long as it does not impinge upon the free will of another.) and maybe in your society you are helping them 90 % or more, (I agree much of what I teach is impossible to practice in some ultra conservative countries.) Honestly, I can say that I did unsubscribe from your website because most things from your essays are not included in my culture, so I will ask for your reply and hopefully you can answer whenever you have time. (Yea, but the bottom line? You still came back.)

I should remind you of my story, I’m the Arabian woman who’s in love with one person who traveled abroad, and left me, (This one here? You started acting like a stalker and became obsessed with him.) and he didn’t want to talk to me even, (No one likes needy, insecure and clingy people from any culture. They reek of fear and self-loathing. They believe they need something found in others, that is missing from within themselves. They are constantly disappointed, as the other person never lives up to their expectations of how they think they should act.) and yes, I was obsessed, but after following the newsletter e-mails, I knew how to bring him back. Then I sent you message. You told me to leave him alone, and both was helpful. He confessed that he loves me when I contact him again for the first time when he was back. We continued again for two months, and then he traveled again abroad. Yes I want to marry, but I love this person. I cannot look for anyone else. Another man wants to marry me, but my heart don’t respond. (You should only marry someone who your heart compels you to marry and who feels the same way.)

Now I’m in big trouble, we are in contact with each other. We talk by net from time to time. He said he loves me, but there’s no mutual understanding. Sometimes I call and he doesn’t reply when he’s busy. (All men are this way. We’ll get back to you when we have time. You must let us focus on our purpose. Calling incessantly is needy behavior. You need to get a life. Get some friends you can spend time with. You must have a happy and fulfilling life full of close friends and family outside of your relationship.) He’s just like that – that is his type, he cant focus on two things. (All men are like this. Masculine energy is all about focus, drive, succeeding, achieving, breaking thru barriers, etc. You’ve got two choices. Either accept that men are this way, or date women!) I can’t understand this. (You should download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE. Even though I wrote it for guys, there is a lot of relationship and communication wisdom in it that will help you. If you interfere in a man’s freedom to focus on his purpose, he will choose his purpose over continuing the relationship, always.) I always get angry at him. (Behind anger is always fear. You are afraid he does not love you. You don’t call to say hi. You only call for unnecessary validation that he loves you. This is tiring to anyone. Keep it up and he will dump you for the same reasons he did the first time.) I want to know how to control my anger, (Simple. Decide to control your anger. Besides, getting angry over things you cannot control or change is silly. Plus, it will ruin intimacy and any chance you have at a healthy and happy relationship.) and how to understand him. (You must give men the time and space to sit and contemplate in their man caves. When we figure out our next move, we come out of our cave with a sense of accomplishment and a renewed desire to fill our women up with our presence mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.) He said we cannot marry because we always fight. I want really to understand him, and control the relationship. (Read my book. You’re deluding yourself, control is an illusion. Read this article of mine also to get a better feel for what makes us men happy. You need to let him be himself. Trying to change him or force him to treat or act a certain way around you will lead to suffering on your part. Accept and love him as he is, or find a man who is exactly like you want.) I fight enough to win him back, and he judged me when we fight without accepting my explanations. I know he loves me. I wanted to leave him one time again. He didn’t respond to this, and he wasn’t ready to leave me. He wanted to leave me, and I didn’t respond to this. I’m not ready to leave him. You were helpful to me when you said leave him alone. That made me more valuable at that time to him. Then he accepted me again, and we went out 4 times within 40 days. (You are doing the same things to drive him away again. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.)

I know he loves me. He told me this many times, but he cant stand my mood. I get angry and he does not understand how to deal with me. We love each other, but do not understand each other. Thank you for hearing me, Please stay safe. (Another good short book to read is The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.)

Thanks for your time again,

Amy

If you have any questions or comments you can post them directly below in the facebook comments system which appears after the end of this article. If you have a question you would like me to answer via email, you can send it to this email address: Questions@UnderstandingRelationships.com

If you would like to inquire about how I can help coach you to be at your best personally, exceed your wildest expectations of what you are capable of and to see if you are a good fit for my phone coaching program, send me an email and include your name, contact number, best times and days to contact you, and the time zone/country you are in. Here’s my email address to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation with me personally (phone coaching inquiries only): Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com. If I think you and I are a good fit and I accept you into my phone coaching program, we will schedule further sessions at that time based upon your most important goals and outcomes.

If you would like to schedule a FREE phone coaching consultation via Skype, please send me an email with the same information listed above including your Skype username, and I will contact you via email to schedule an appointment. Here’s my email address again for phone/Skype coaching inquiries only: Corey@UnderstandingRelationships.com.

If you feel I have added value to your life, you can show your appreciation by doing one of the following three things:

1) Make a donation to my work via the “PayPal Donate” button located on the “Wibiya” toolbar (right hand side) that runs along the bottom of every page of my website anytime you feel I have added significant value to your life. You tip your favorite bartender, right? How about a buck… $2… $3… $5… $10… what ever YOU feel its worth, every time you feel I have given you a good tip, new knowledge or helpful insight. Please feel free to donate any amount you think is equal to the value you received from my eBook & Home Study Course (audio lessons), articles, videos, emails, newsletters, etc.

2) Referring your friends and family to this website by clicking the Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Google +1, etc. social network sharing buttons located on the “Wibiya” tool bar at the bottom of this page, so they can start learning and improving their dating and relationship life, happiness, balance and overall success in every area of their lives too!

3) Purchase a book, CD’s, home study course or phone coaching session for yourself or a friend by “clicking here“. Download the Amazon.com Kindle version of my book to your Kindle, Smartphone, Mac or PC for only 99 cents by “clicking here“. That way, you’ll always have it with you to reference when you need it most. Thank you for reading this message!

From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur

“Impatience never commanded success.” – Edwin H. Chapin

It’s always best to make a fresh start and find someone new once you have blown your chances with someone you really like. The danger in not moving on, is that you will get hung up on a woman you can not have, which will keep you from meeting a woman you can have. As time goes by, human beings tend to forget the negative emotional impact or bad things that happened in their relationships previously. We literally look at our past through rose colored glasses as time moves on. If a woman thinks you are a jerk or a putz who is clueless when it comes to creating attraction, and then you do the work on yourself to become a man who understands attraction, it’s possible a woman who rejected you in the past will forget the bad things and give you a second chance. I have gotten second chances before. They are extremely rare, but they do happen.

I wrote about this particular incident in my book. It should be considered the exception to the rule. I went out on a date with a woman who I really wanted for a long time. She always had a boyfriend and was therefore unavailable. However, I ran into her when she was recently single. I made a date and everything went perfect. However, when she did not call me back in the time I expected her to, I became impatient and assumed she was blowing me off. I wrote her a nasty e-mail telling her how pissed off I was at her. She was actually on vacation and therefore out of town and unavailable. She wasn’t too happy with me when she got back and found my e-mail. I felt like a jackass. I completely blew my chances unnecessarily all because I was needy, insecure and impatient. She blew me off.

Almost 4 years went by. In that four years, I had gotten my shit together and finally learned to understand what women wanted and how to handle my interactions with them successfully. I was walking downtown with a friend of mine. There she was after four years. She was just as radiant and beautiful as ever! I only stayed to talk for a minute or so, and then I said I had to run to catch up with my buddy. We were both pretty shocked to have seen each other after all of this time. I figured if I had any chance, she would contact me. This was a Friday night. On Monday I got an e-mail from her telling me how surprised she was to see me and expressing her disappointment that I did not stick around to chat longer. She made it easy for me, and this time… I was prepared. I took full advantage of my second chance. That is why you must move on when you have blown it. Maybe someday you will run into each other again when you have your shit together. Like I said before, it’s the exception rather than the rule. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He acted needy and blew his chances with a girl he really liked. He wants to know the likelihood of his getting a second chance. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Corey,

I’ve heard some of your YouTube videos and I like what you have to say. I do have a question though. Is it possible to get back a woman you like, AFTER you’ve been “needy”? (Yes, but it is slim to none. If she has blown you off, then you need to move on and start meeting and dating other women. Maybe you will hear from her down the road. Maybe not. That is why you should take the time to practice what I teach on new women so you can learn how to properly apply what I teach. Then, if your girl contacts you again, you will know where you went wrong in the past so you can start doing the right things going forward.) I like a this woman, we’ve hung out a bit for about 4 months, and the texts and conversation has stopped. (That is a sign you have done and said things that turned her off.) I’ve been examining my life and my life with her, and she’s drifted. That’s my only question. I like to hear your input. (You need to read my book ASAP! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Tom

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